9yo obsessed with the mirror!!!

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She's driving me nuts with her obsession about how she looks, her hair mainly. I knew this would come but at 9?! She's just finished year 4, though is well into puberty. How can I curb the arguments we're having about her mirror time?

As long as she gets herself ready in time for school what does it matter? If you both need to be using the mirror at the same time, buy another one, or if there is room in her bedroom, get her a dressing table where she can do her hair etc without occupying the bathroom (if that's what the issue is)

There's no shortage of mirrors, it's the fact that she's so concerned about how she looks that concerns me for such a young girl. I've told her repeatedly how it dorsnt matter if her hair/clothes aren't - in her eyes - perfect but it falls on deaf ears.

I think if you make too much of an issue of it she'll think it is wrong or shameful and do it secretly instead (and maybe hurt herself like stealing dad's shaver and trying to shave newly emerging armpit hairs and cutting herself for eg - or stealing your makeup and ruining something expensive, if it was open you could buy her cheap stuff to experiment with). You could ask her casually if anyone makes comments about her appearance, if she says no you can try asking the school if her teachers have noticed anything, if nothing then probably just leave it. As long as she doesn't seem distressed or miserable or anything. She is probably just enjoying learning about how to do different hairstyles or etc and trying them out on herself. Other girls night have started caring how they look and she wants to fit in. Once the novelty wears off and it isn't worth all the effort she'll probably drop down to a more maintainable effort level