I have a 12 yo and 11 yo dds, as I have an older one I know that kids this age leave thing lying about and can be lazy but dd11 is something else!!
she will take food upstairs (despite not being allowed) and leaves pots/wrappers on the floor, leaves dirty and clean clothes all over the floor and all over her bed. books, pens, paper, school bag etc just wherever she throws them down then that is where they stay.
I give her extra jobs to do (washing dishes, vacuuming etc) if she doesn't keep her things tidy. I take her phone, I can ban screen time, say she cant go out with her friends etc etc but nothing helps. she would rather take the punishment than just pick up after herself.
ive tried helping her tidy, I have completely tidies the room top to bottom a couple of times and she says how much better it is and promises to keep on top of it but it doesn't last more than a day.
she misplaces things all the time, school books, library books, pe kit, trainers, but never things that she values, like her phone, her pencil case with all her gel pens or her favourite clothes.
Im just at a loss of what to do. shes at high school in September and its only going to get worse if she doesn't get her act together. if it was just her room I would consider just closing her door and letting her live in the mess but her sister has to share the room so its just not fair. dd12 isn't a saint and she still leaves things lying about sometimes, but with a reminder she will go and pick them up. dd11 just doesn't seem to care.
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TheRealAllieG · 24/06/2019 12:12
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