10yo with attitude & agression

[JaninePi]

Hey I am a dad with a problem and hoping for some advice.
10 year old boy who has the language of a stroppy 20 year old (with a dad with a short fuse). Trouble is it kind of resembles me as a youngster so hoping what comes around doesn’t ...
So, the issues ....
Good kid, super intelligent and active life but ...
My wife Janine takes them everywhere (karate / swimming ..) but they kick off every time (yet love it when they get there)
But now the problems start as they don’t want to do anything other than watch TV / play on games which we restrict
The language is well beyond acceptable and the anger is super high.
I am sure plenty of you are going through the same stage so any advice as we have exhausted all punishment avenues!

[soniamumsnet]

Hi @JaninePi, we're just giving this thread a bump for you in case there are any Mumsnetters on hand to give you a bit of advice and support.

[4cheekymonkey]

Hi, I can't really give advice as we are in the exact same boat. 4 boys here 2 older ones are 7 and 9. The 9 year old l can be incredibly rude/arrogant and have had issues with him hurting his brother quite badly. We both have a short fuse so probably genetically not on our side plus I'm sure modeling the right behaviour is important for them to be able to learn but it is tricky especially when they treat you with no respect. Good luck and let us know if you find a solution!!

[Mintjulia]

I have the same problem with an 11yo.
I just try to stay consistent. 2 hours screen time per day maximum (use a timer). At least three hours outside daily at weekends. Cycling, football, swimming, climbing....

We attend clubs regardless of arguments. I make sure he knows what is happening today, tomorrow in advance so he can get his head around. Then if he grumbles about things I just carry on regardless.

It takes a thick skin. I’m hoping it’s a phase or it’s going to be a long summer