What are your rules about phones for 12 year old?

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Is it fair to say phone to be switched off at 8pm?
Do you have limits of how long they're allowed on it?

my daughter is 12 and we have the same rule, no phone after 8pm during school days 9pm weekends/school holidays

I have a family app that allows me to control what can be downloaded and set maximum screen times for the day also to turn it off remotely if he's being a toad mwahahaaa. Also no screen time after 8pm and until he's a bit older the rule is I'm allowed to look at it whenever I want. Definitely no social media yet.

Google Family Link. Wish I'd found it for my older two. I'm sure there's similar for Apple products as well.

I hate when people say 'watching ... but ...

I think that’s more than fair.

Sounds good to me. 👍

Unglue is a good app. There's a monthly subscription but I can set hours of internet access, amount of time per day, see how much time she's spent on which app, and she can earn extra time by doing chores. Also, from anywhere in the world, I can disable her phone if she's being a shitbag.

No phone in her room after bedtime.

Until bedtime I don't mind it much, it depends what she is doing anyway. Normally she puts it aside/charges it when I call for dinner anyway.

I take DS's phone at 8.30pm every night (weekends and holidays included) and he gets it back in the morning as he's leaving for school.

The password is known to me and I police it at random times.

I used to have an app but it was difficult to administer and didn't work well when he was away so it had to got. But I am open to alternatives as phones are such a minefield.

I take DSs phone off him as soon as I remember when he gets home.

He has his own pc and has time on that (which is restricted via parental controls on Windows 10), and he's not one for social media or messaging anyone (thank goodness) so he doesn't need it for that.
He only uses it when he's run out of pc time and I've forgotten to take the phone off him.

All screen time on a school night is removed by 8pm. Bit more relaxed weekends and holidays.

He is given his phone just before he leaves the house at 7.30am.

My child is a bit younger but I use the apple screen time feature with my eldest and restrict when she can be on her phone but also how long she spends on certain apps too. It’s really useful and she can ask for additional time in special circumstances that either myself or my partner can approve.

our biggest one is all phones downstairs overnight.
Ds was 15.5 before we finally allowed him to have his phone overnight in his room.

Phone also has restrictions on it.

My dd’s phone is linked to my dh account

It automatically gets switched off after 2.5 hrs use and at 8pm
Extended usage limits on weekends
No phone at the dinner table
Charge it downstairs
No phone overnight in the bedroom
Zero spend cap on it (she can’t buy anything on it)
As it’s lhnked to our account we authorise any apps - I abide by all age restrictions, so no fb, insta, tiktoc etc

I just make mine leave their phones downstairs when they go to bed.

Can recommend Qustodio app.