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I’m worried about my 12 yo

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Jinxed2 · 15/04/2019 11:59

My dad started secondary school in September and is doing really well she got great reports at parents evening about what a lovely girl she is and how she is lovely to her peers etc. She went to a different school to most of the girls she went to primary school with as she had had a bit of trouble with friendships and I thought she was better making a fresh start (now these girls have blocked her on WhatsApp etc so I know we made the right choice). She wasn’t assertive enough with these couple of girls and they were just awful with her, one in particular.

She has stayed friends with one girl from primary school at her new school and she lives in our town, all her other friends are from out of town and I don’t know their parents. I’ve told her to message this girl a few times about meeting up and she just doesn’t give her a definitive answer but has been going bowling, cinema etc with one of their other friends.

She has 2 other friends who went to a 3rd different secondary school who she is trying to stay friends with but finding that hard too as they have made all new friends.

I just feel so sad for her as she’s such a lovely girl but she’s been miserable this holiday. Does this get easier? I really don’t want it affecting her confidence.

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Jinxed2 · 15/04/2019 12:00

*my dd

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GreenTulips · 15/04/2019 12:03

Personal experice is that year 7’s suddenly realise that can be who ever they want, they are in different classes and sets so have a choice of friends.

This causes friendship groups to be fluid.

I would suggest she looks out for girls who also seem to be struggling and approach those.

I also found a lot of year 7’s are still very much controlled by parents who are nervous about where they go, houses/parents they don’t know etc which makes things more difficult

It does get better

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