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J7223j · 29/03/2019 20:17

Hi my 12 year old son started high school last year - first few months fine (came from a small school in a class with nobody from his school all boys from another bigger school). Made friends with new boys, Anyhow my son was getting bullied by one boy who was constantly trying to get my son to fight him - my son ignored it on our advice and the boy eventually gave up. Then the same boy told one of my sons new friends something untrue that my son hadnt done. (ive seen the text messages) and now this boy is bullying my son. My son has ignored it but is now having to sit alone in every class because this boy has alienated him. We have been to see the head - my son doesnt want them calling in as he says the bullying will escalate and he will be called a snitch - the boy has a brother in an older year who has also threatened my son. The head has agreed that when the new timetable is set he will ensure that they are in as little classes together as possible. However today my son is getting more threatening text messages from other boys that seem to have joined in with plenty of name calling. My son has been having real trouble getting to sleep at night, his moods are very up and down as a result of this and we are really worried about him. I'm so proud of him for not getting into fight's - believe me they have not stopped trying to get him to fight. We are getting to the point of going back to school and getting said boys parents in, but obviously dont want to make things worse for my son. Anyone experienced anything similar or have any advice? So upsetting sending him to school every day knowing he's having to put up with this. He has become very self critical about his appearance as they are making derogatory comments.

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TeaForTheWin · 29/03/2019 20:24

Take the phone away, it's is only making things worse. Think I'd cut the internet connection to the house too (tell him it's the phone companies fault if need be, but do it). At least that way they can't bully him in the house.

As for school...there's nothing else you can do. You have to let it run it's course. Just be there for him when he gets home and let him know he can tell you anything.

Short of changing schools, which I suppose is a perfectly fair thing to expect you to do for him should it continue for much longer, that's about all you can do.

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