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Preteens and porn. Advice please!

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Busymummy50 · 17/01/2019 23:58

My 11 year old son recently used my tablet. He wouldn't let me see so I was concerned. So I checked the history and found that he had looked at a porn site.

My partner thinks boys will watch at some point and if I raise it up and talk to my son about it then he will still do it but behind our backs and that when he was a teen, he used to be curious and so did his friends. But he thinks I should continue to monitor to see if it continues. It happened twice over 2 days.

Me on the other hand is a bit worried. Is 11 a bit young to be curious about sex and I look at porn sites? Obviously in our days there was no internet!

My son had been reading a book about growing up recently and about body changes and sex etc. He has been asking questions about his body and pretty open with me. I don't want to ruin that trust he has in me to talk and ask questions.

What shall I do? I want to have a conversation with him about porn sites and is this a good idea?

Any tips on what to do?!

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LovingLola · 18/01/2019 00:06

Educate yourself about pornography sites. Lock down your tablet so that your child cannot access sites. There is lots of software out there to help you to protect your child,
Then figure out how to talk to him
Again there are resources there to help you. Search for them.

WindowsSmindows · 18/01/2019 00:08

Tell him he can't use your tablet any more

Either that or sit when and watch porn together

Except you won't stomach that as most online porn is so grotesquely violent aand aggressive and dismissing of women that it would make you sick to watch it with your young child.

Choice is yours.

Busymummy50 · 19/01/2019 00:45

Thank you for your replies. I have spoken to him. He wanted to find out more about sex after reading it in the book I have (kids book about the body) he accidentally came across these sites while trying to find out about sex. The book only mentions it briefly. I have explained about it being fantasy and in real life it's different. He reassured me won't happen again as he didn't want to see that but just to find out about sex so we spoke about sex, how the body reacts etc. We will now out measures in place to filter these contents!

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FishCanFly · 19/01/2019 15:11

It is very normal to be curious and look for things, and no, 11yo is not too young. And the amount of information we're willing to give as "age appropriate" just isn't enough.
Online porn is extremely dangerous because it involves some really sick shit which can be extremely disturbing. No unsupervised internet!

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