Am i missing something here?

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My child plays with a bunch of neighbourhood kids and one keeps hurting him. He has spd and anxiety and doesnt take it well. He can tease and wind up as they all do sometimes but never usually hurts or fights back. He has been jumped on and this boy pushes down on his neck and also hooks his arm around his neck wrestling him to the ground.sometimes pulling his feet out from underneath him. His mothers attitude is basically that he is -asking for it' by winding him up and he is giving as 'good as he gets'. I dont agree that teasing is the same as violence and is never acceptable. We are at loggerheads as she refuses to see that her son is in the wrong!. All i wanted is her to ask him to stop and give the message that physical violence is not the answer. Its a simple universal message isnt it?.

Have you talked to your DS about how to play without teasing and “winding up” other children.

I don’t think your son is “asking for it” but on the other hand, he’s not really helping himself and I’m not sure what falling out with the other Mother is achieving.

Well yes i do tell him to not tease but they all do it to each other. This particular boy doesnt control his fists and i dont beleive she should be giving a message of its ok to use force and swear when you dont agree on the subject of a video game. He thinks its ok to thump and jump on my son and swear ect. I dont think thats acceptable and she does. Its not deliberate falling out with someone we have very different ideas of whats acceptable. Im trying to find out what other people think is acceptable in the easiest way possible.

Well obviously fighting isn’t ok, but does he understand that teasing and winding up people isn’t helping him in this situation?

Of course its not but he doesnt do any more than the others in teasing. I am wanting to find out what others take on physical violence is from other kids and how you would deal with that if neither the parent or child think they should stop?. It doesnt equate to teasing about crushes and video games does it?