sorry if a bit long winded im just trying to summarise but give enough detail
dd who is 10 has had issues with a girl in her class "L" on and off for a while, although she's shy dd can usually stick up her herself (eg they say you stink she will say, well you're a pig) but would never call anyone anything unless they were being horrible.
Recently things have seemed worse, trivial to an adult maybe but to a pre teen full of hormones this is really taking its toll. small things like saying she would bring an extra pack of sweets to school for all the girls, but not dd, calls dds best friend over and says the other girls can come and listen to what she's saying, but not my dd. She asked what sweet dd would like and when she told her, L said well you can only have one if you agree to be my best friend (they're 10 and 11! and L has always gone out of her way to piss off dd and slag her off.
The main thing that has got me is last week L asked dd if she likes needles. dd said yes (thinking for sewing) and L ran off shouting to other kids "dd" likes needles, she likes drugs! (again, only small to us but she was a bit upset. dd asked her next day why she said that and L said she hadn't said anything (dd and others heard her)
A dinner lady on Friday pulled dd to one side and said L tells me you have been saying mean things to her and telling people she takes drugs. dd was really upset about this as she is never told off by teachers and she was in tears.
this evening (not a school incident) dd was playing out with 2 friends and L was out too (lives on next street) L said, I'm going to speak to the teachers about something tomorrow, then mouthed to the other girls "her" and pointed to dd.
dd said 'you can do because my mum and dad know you've been bullying me . L said in a faux sweet voice (according to dd) 'I have no memory of such a thing, you must have fallen and hit youre head really hard to think something like that, are you ok?'
dd doesn't want to play out, even when one of her other friends came round tonight after dinner she ran out of the room and whispered tell her im in the shower. she is dreading going to school tomorrow as it feels like theres something everyday, even if something small. she usually loves school.
im prepared to hear she has been doing something and is just as bad but im not a "my dd can do no wrong" parent but I really don't think this is warranted.
will her teacher just think its 'just girls/playground antics? I feel really sad for her but aware I may well be being precious??
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just kids? or bullying/manipulation? I should speak to teacher shouldnt I?
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purple8pig · 16/09/2018 19:17
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