Preteens
Help with behaviour
DeepfriedPizza · 01/08/2018 14:13
Who do you turn to when your child's behaviour has got so bad that you can't handle it?
We've tried grounding and taking away screens and T.V but nothing seems to be working.
lorisparkle · 01/08/2018 14:19
I bought the book ‘easier, happier, calmer parenting ‘ when I was at my wits end with ds1. It is really hard work but did really help. I often forget the advice and lose my patience with him and ds2 and 3 but generally it works.
The general idea is about giving explicit instructions about expectations, praising when they meet those expectations, having clear consequences of not meeting expectations,and following through on consequences. Getting the child to Talk through what went wrong and what should happen next time.
JiltedJohnsJulie · 02/08/2018 07:35
Can you give us more examples Deepfried? It might help us to be more specific, although you’ve had sone great advice already from lori 
DeepfriedPizza · 04/08/2018 08:52
DD is 8 and if we want to do something she doesn’t want to do then all hell breaks loose.
She was away with her grandparents and they brought her home from holiday because of her cheek. It’s never anything more than bad attitude and tantrumming but it’s really horrible.
We’ve been confiscating screens and grounding but it is still really hard work.
JiltedJohnsJulie · 04/08/2018 10:22
Things that help my DD are being really clear on what’s hapoening and when, she doesn’t like anything unexpected. The only consequence she doesn’t seem to like is going to bed 10 minutes earlier. She seems to think that’s an absolute bloody outrage 
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