Son making very bad threats

[PassiveAgressiveQueen]

My son was bullied all through primary school he is now in secondary school year 7.

This isn't an excuse but just backstory so you understand why he reacted so badly...

He was being teased (where is the line between tease and bully?) and had some pencils stolen from him by some girls. he responded with a rape threat (to their mother).

We have punishment in hand. But how do we explain WHY this is so WRONG, so he understands why he is being punished so harshly.

You need to explain that he has absolutely no rights to a woman's body. That by saying this, even as an angry response that he wouldn't actually follow through with, he is presenting himself as a violent, ruthless misogynist who would willingly dominate, control and cause immense harm to women. Explain that no matter how horrible these girls are to him, they have a right to feel safe and respected, and that it is utterly unacceptable for him to make them fearful for their and their family's safety in any way, especially in such a gendered and violent way. He will get himself a reputation if he continues saying things like this/making rape jokes, and he'll be making the women in his life feel scared and disrespected, even the ones that he wants to have a good relationship with. I know he probably didn't mean it and was just thinking of the most outrageous thing he could say, but it's vitally important that he understands the implications of his actions.

Thanks, i can never think of the ideas/ words when in a panic

I can understand him snapping and getting wound up, absolutely. But he needs to know that rape threats are not on, ever. They’re appalling.

I totally understand that, I'm the same! About half an hour after a debate or argument with someone, I'll suddenly think of a great comeback 😂 not that you're going to be arguing with him, but it's hard to word things properly when you're in a state and when you just know why it's wrong but don't know how to explain that to someone who doesn't. Hope it goes okay and that he's suitably apologetic. I think he should apologise to the girls too 💕

We don't know if he is going to be suspended yet... I hope he isn't made to apologise before we talk to him.

Hopefully you can talk to him when he gets home and you can get it across.

Best solution, giving him the female eunuch to read. (only half joking)

I do think it’s understandable that he snapped tbh, just needs guidance on how to respond appropriately which I’m sure you’ll give.