My eldest child is 10, just turned in March. She's kind, funny and lovely however in the last four months she has morphed into a moody, argumentative, disrespectful nightmare. I hate writing negative things about her but I am truly at my wits end regarding what to do with her. She lies a lot, about silly things and she steals also, mainly spare change and she has raided her younger brothers piggy bank. She will frequently fly off the handle if asked to do something she doesn't want to and I often get the door slammed in my face or "I hate you!" I confiscate her phone and her iPad when she's being naughty and on occasion apps will get deleted if she's really pushing it but as soon as she gets her privileges back, her attitude returns.
She has had issues with keeping friends at school and has been physically attacked twice in 6 months by two different boys. The school dealt with it internally, but not enough was done IMO as my daughter was left with bruising etc. She's bright and is achieving highly in all subjects at school, but she has no motivation for school and it's a trauma every weekend to get her homework done (not unusual I know).
Most of the arguments with my DP centre around our daughters behaviour. She (my DP) tends to be very authoritative towards our daughter and it seems like they argue back and forth. It drives me crazy and I don't think it's conductive of anything being sorted as it just starts more arguments. I have lost my temper a lot at my daughter and shouted but it doesn't do anything. I'm almost 13 weeks pregnant now too and the continual stress is doing no one any good. We've tried rewards, punishments but still the behaviour continues. My daughter has a brother who's a year younger than her and her attitude towards him is terrible also. She'll goad him and say nasty things until he retaliates and they end up physically fighting. It's sometimes like trying to referee two feral cats.
My daughter is close to her grandad and they have a special bond however he refuses to see any negative aspects of my daughters behaviour and when I try and broach it with him he will excuse it.. either using school or some other issue. I get that school might be part of the issue but I don't think it's that 100%. He'll undermine mine and DP's authority in front of our daughter and I think that this is contributing to the issues that we're currently having.
I know this is waffling but I'm just petrified that this will escalate. I love my daughter with everything and I only want what's best for her but I can't carry on like this.. it's so destructive.. 🙁
10 year old daughter behaviour.. HELP!
Gemsie1984 · 01/06/2018 12:35
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