When did my 11 year old become such a spoilt brat?

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I hate taking him high street shopping with me! Every trip is the same- ends up with him sulking that i won't buy him new trainers (adult size 7 so £120ish per pair). He has 2 pairs that fit him currently, bought in Jan sales! He has completely spolit our (his brother and i) shopping trip today again so i refused to take them for lunch and we came home. He is in his room sulking. Can i realistically leave him at home alone next time and just take his brother for a pleasant afternoon?
How have i ended up with such a horrible, spoilt, entitled, materialistic child?

Mine is too, but not necessarily about designer trainers, about everything! Just being asked to help around the home, how evil I am for insisting on no technology in rooms at bed time, how I'm basically neglectful for getting them to walk to school.

Is it the age? Is it too much teen tv? I don't know. It's awful and I hate it. Everything is spoiled by selfish, petulant behaviour. I know exactly how you feel! I am finding that helping them to grow into reasonable human beings is exhausting. If he's at secondary and responsible, I would leave him for a couple of hours at home. I do with mine because they are alone after school for a bit anyway as I'm out picking up the others. Who knows if that's the acceptable thing at the moment though!

He is Y6. Walks to/from school on his own now, but isn't really at home alone much. I'm so cross i feel like crying!

The start of the teenage years op!
Your lovely,happy intelligent son will reappear in a few years time with a deeper voice and body hair!
In the meantime leave him out of the shopping trips.
Good luck

Dreading secondary school now!

Oh, I know exactly how you feel. It's so rubbish. You plan these lovely days out and they ruin them with their mystifying behaviour. I honestly feel so out of my depth most days. Does he have a friend he could go to and you could go out then? I find my younger child misses out quite a bit because of the 11 yr old and it's just not fair. We try and do stuff with them separately. Families, eh!

We had 2 days in London last week. Day 1 - adorable, lovely ds1, a pleasure to spend time with.
Day 2 - monster. I want a burger for lunch, why do we have to do this, why do we have to do that, why can’t I eat all my Easter egg by 10am and play non-stop fortnite all morning (staying with friends).
Aaaaand breathe.
Hormones? I’m blaming everything on hormones because we sure as hell didn’t bring him up to be an entitled monster!