Door slamming

[Storminateacup74]

So please tell me that door slamming and eye rolling is normal behaviour from a 11.5 yr old. My hubby is making such a huge issue of it and is saying the disrespect the kids show is shocking and that my daughter has massive behaviour issues. His house is his pride and joy - he spends all say cleaning and tidying. He also loves his doors and honestly thinks they are more important than people. He isn't speaking to any of us at the moment due to door disrespect!! She gets angry if she feels she is treated unfairly and unfortunately I need to set boundaries and sometimes she gets cross which results in a door slam or an eye roll.

How often is she slamming doors? Once in a blue moon is one thing, but this sounds like it's more than that, and if so, it's not OK - there need to be extra consequences for that.

Eye rolling is one thing, but potentially damaging your home is bad behaviour.

Not wanting someone smashing your house up is in no way unreasonable, no matter what age they are.

He also loves his doors and honestly thinks they are more important than people.

Not sure I understand this in this context - it's not as though your daughter's going to be damaged by NOT slamming a door...

You can get things to stop doors slamming (either with felt pads or an anti-slam piston) it results in a far less satisfying slam, therefore door slamming becomes a non issue.

Meanwhile I'd have a look at your husbands house cleaning obsession (because that is odd, especially the door comment) and why your daughter is so angry - listen to her and what she has to say and don't dismiss her concerns as trivial, they will be important to her even if they sound ridiculous by adult standards and that is one of the biggest things teens have an issue with is having their concerns minimised.

Her behaviour is pretty standard though - especially if she is living in a prissy or patronising environment with your husband constantly putting her down or not listening to her? Also sulking is not an attractive quality in an adult man, please tell him to stop being a dick and un-clench a little in general.

Sorry used 'teens' instead of 'pre-teens', but the same applies, especially as they hurtle towards and into teendom!

We took DDs door off for a week after too much door slamming aged 10 or 11. She was warned. She still storms off (prope teen) but has stopped slamming.

Well he has just spent all afternoon cleaning the hob he was so proud when we got back from bowling - unfortunately I splashed water on it when cooking tea and I am being petty now and refusing to clean it. Just for the record my son is autistic just wish hubby would try and understand that he probably is too. The house is his pride and joy, that and cif and the Hoover!!