My daughter just told me to F-off!!!

[MissyMoooo]

Just as the title says. She's 11 years old and is very angry in general. She has a lovely home life and gets lots of treats. But she is being bullied at school. Tonight she went off on one so we confiscated her iPad. Then she told me to F off (didn't say f*ck just F) I'm furious and disappointed that she would speak to me like that as I do lots for her / with her. Is she maybe taking her bullying out on me? I don't know how to deal with it. I expected this behaviour as a teenager not at age 11!! Any advice?

Is tomorrow first day back after half term?

No she went back last week (we are in Scotland) so it's not that. But she probably is still dreading going back tomorrow!

She must be so fed up :( do you know what the bullies are actually doing to her etc? Even though you're hurt, she needs you more than ever. So I'd go in and let her know you're there for her now but tell her firmly you do not wish to be spoken to in that way.
Is there anyway you could go into the school and sort it?

Diaries were the way forward with my daughter. Tell her to sit and write and write until it's all out of her system. She can swear as much as she likes in the diary as nobody will look at it, but swearing at you is not on.

Thank you for your replies. Yes I know what they're doing and I've been to the school about it. A diary is a great idea!!! Thank you. X

Poor thing. She sounds like she is at the end of her tether! I know that it is unacceptable..,.but I would go in with understanding on this one, and address the root cause rather than dwelling on the reaction. She must be so upset and/or angry with the injustice of being mistreated in school.


Went through something similar with my dd at the same age. It was very, very hard on us both, but we kept communication open and I tried to not come down to hard on her when she had outbursts...but to stay calm, and discuss it when she had cooled down. She's 14 now and things are great. She's a delight 99% of the time. Stay strong