11yo DS searching for photos of naked girls on internet

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I was having a quick look at his phone last night and found his browsing history which was basically 'naked sexy models'.

He is in Year 7 and probably more naive than a lot of his friends but clearly not as naive as I thought 😕

I know it is just normal teenage curiosity and no different to boys finding porn magazines in my day but it seems too young for this.

Would you mention it to him? I am slightly concerned that his 9yo brother could pick up his phone and inadvertently come across these photos.

Hi OP, I have a DS in year 7 too. I’ve not found this kind of thing on his phone, but I guess I wouldn’t be too surprised if I did and would consider it pretty natural at this age (as long as it’s nothing hard core or disturbing).

I do plan to have a chat with DS sometime about porn - about how it is not a realistic portrayal of a loving healthy relationship, and about consent etc. Not sure when, but I guess it should be soon!

Have you got blocks set up? We are with Virgin and they do one for free. I am going to make you feel better now and tell you that we put ours in place after my 8yr old DS searched for naked ladies We had lots of chats, and put lots of things in place and it has blown over. At 11 years old your DS is becoming curious which is completely natural, however there are some truly vile porn videos and images out there and I do think it's important to have discussions about how these do not represent a normal loving relationship. At some point someone at school will show them to him and its better to be prepared. (I also have a 13 yr old who is still horrified by the very idea of this bless him!)

When my little brother was 7 he searched big boobies and sexy ladies on dads ipad. We still take the piss out of him now and he’s 14. Definitely curiosity.

This will out me to any friends on here..
but I caught my yr 7 son searching for
“Knacard sexy wimon trwerking” I didn’t know wether to be more annoyed with his spelling or that he was searching naked women.
I spoke to him and told him not to be searching naked women and explained exploitation to him. We have a very good honest relationship so he is usually quite happy to come and ask me questions about things.
As I waited for him to come out of school this week a few of his yr 7 fellows were coming out of school, one was having a seater and yelled out.. “I feel like your giving me anal” my heart sunk that within school he’s being exposed to language like that. I’m now waiting for the question as to what that boy meant!

Just speak to him, it’s just curiosity and they can feed their curiosity so much easier nowadays then when we were young. Do you have family security on your internet? It may block it out for you?

In terms of his age, completely normal. Also not long before 9 year old.

However as well known its very easy for children to easily come across hardcore pornography in a few clicks now and lots of children aged 11 or younger will have seen some sort of pornography.

It's worth making sure your protections on the internet are good, reason up on some advice online, and making sure your children have a good understanding of sex do they're not doing their primary learning from porn or other children who have watched porn

We used to pore over the Littlewoods Catalogue underwear pages and The National Geographic for unclothed people. From about 8 or 9.

It’s the internet and what is available that is different, not children’s natural curiosity and pre-pubescent stirrings.

Get your blocks in place.

I work in a school and we have boys in year 4 and 5 trying to look up naked ladies on the iPads
.. they dont find anything because of the blocks but..

They said it was all from YouTube which isn't blocked at school cause we use it so much. There is filth on YouTube so be careful. Even the kid tube one.

Your lovely boy will most likely be seeing his mates and the other boys in school looking/talking about it and so, naturally, is curious. Nothing to worry about, all part of growing up so I'd agree with you about having that talk with him. Best to do it sooner while he's making impressions on this new world of sexual pictures than wait until he's seen too much/heard too much from other boys.

Thank you everyone - you have made me feel so much better 😊 I don't really know much about putting blocks in place so I will investigate about that. I think photos of pretty naked ladies is not so bad but it is what it might lead to if he carries on clicking!

As for the 9 year old, he seriously is the most naive, childish boy ever so I doubt he will be venturing into naked lady searches any time soon 😉 and I am happy with that!

It is perfectly natural, but that does not mean it is o.k. However, it's not something I would be overly concerned about, although that's easier said when it's not your child. My DH discovered that our eldest DS was searching for gay porn when he was the same age as your son. We were not shocked or surprised about the gay thing, but my baby boy looking for porn was hard to take. They are often not as naive as you think. Thankfully we were able to get over the shock of it before we spoke to him about it.

We were very naive about internet family security before that, we weren't after. Content blockers are your friends......