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Preteens

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Monobrow 11 year old

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bonbonours · 23/09/2017 20:59

My 11 year old has inherited my monobrow. I didn't start plucking mine until I was quite old, maybe 6th form, (now it doesn't really grow back much) and when I look back at pictures of me as a younger teenager I think, "Oh my god why didn't my mum tell me to do something about it sooner?" (Mum also had the same monobrow before plucking it)

11 seems too young to start messing with hair removal, plus she's a total wuss about pain so not sure she would tolerate plucking. But should I just wait until she becomes aware of it (and what is that is by people teasing her?) or should I gently suggest that she might want to do something about it, but doesn't have to if she doesn't want to?

It doesn't bother me, and if she was happy to keep it I wouldn't care, but what if she is aware of it/doesn't like it and doesn't realise she can do something about it?

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JumpingJoey · 23/09/2017 21:07

Girls and boys tend to start waxing/plucking in Year 8. Lots of teasing in Year 7.

1lov3comps · 23/09/2017 21:11

My 9 year old asked me what she could do about her unibrow about a year ago - someone in school had commented on it. I explained that I wouldn't be happy waxing it or using cream in it but that I would pluck it for her if she wanted. She thought about it and a couple of days later she asked me to do it for her, I did and now do it maybe every 2 months for her (always when she asks, I never bring it up). I figure if it bothers her and I can help her then why not? Hopefully it means that she's happy to come to me the next time somethings bothering her...don't get me wrong, it saddens me that I had to do it when she was only 8, seems too young but kids can be mean

YorkieDorkie · 23/09/2017 21:13

Absolutely nothing wrong with a gentle hot wax! My youngest client is 12 and her brows are her everything.

BumbleTwit · 23/09/2017 21:14

I'll probably be flamed for this but I regularly cut/groom my ds's uni brow and I've been doing it since he was 3. He's particularly hairy In the eye area and looks angry with one. I just trim the hAirs back to neaten them. I also remove my dd's lip hair and she's 9.

I don't think you should wait. I was bullied a lot for facial hair and it made me lose so much confidence. I didn't have much to begin with. It didn't make me stronger or more proud of "being different". It was really shit of my mum telling me I looked fine.

OrlandaFuriosa · 23/09/2017 21:20

You get so bullied. Even if she isn't saying. Both boys and girls get bullied.

TheDowagerCuntess · 23/09/2017 21:31

11 was when I started removing body hair, and that was way back in the 80s.

It's not fair that this is the expectation on people (especially girls), but being teased for it is even more unfair.

Can you let her see you plucking your brows? It might prompt a conversation or question from her, and you can go from there. Explain why you do it, say it's not fair, etc, etc, but that you do it for X, Y reason. It might make her feel that it's also OK to do it.

eyebrowsonfleek · 23/09/2017 22:37

It’s very common to be plucking and removing body hair in primary school these days. My dd started in y5 as a result of teasing and while it took a while for her to learn not to pluck too much, she looks great now.

Wondermoomin · 23/09/2017 22:53

1lov3comps just out of interest why are you ok with plucking but not waxing or creams?

I plan to take my girls to the salon for threading or waxing when they ask. They see me getting my eyebrows threaded regularly. I would be concerned about over-plucking if I taught them that way.

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bonbonours · 23/09/2017 22:55

Dowager, that's a great idea, a subtler way of bringing it up rather than telling her she needs to do something about it. Thanks.

Is there any way of doing it that doesn't hurt? Like I say she's a massive wuss.

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KoolKoala07 · 23/09/2017 22:56

I've got some young clients who come along and have waxing. Over far quicker than plucking.

MontyPants · 23/09/2017 23:06

Go for an eyebrow wax appointment together. It doesn't hurt at a proper professional salon. I started having mine done at about 13. She will thank you for it when she gets older. I pluck my DH's monobrow now, but I know a wax is far less painful!

Mummyoftwo91 · 23/09/2017 23:10

My 2 yo daughter has a mono, her dad is Mediterranean and she's very dark it doesn't bother her or me she's a beautiful girl but I always get comments on when I'm going to wax it 🙄

NoMudNoLotus · 23/09/2017 23:24

I take my 11 year old DD to have hers waxed .

The alternative would be a self concious potentially bullied child .

1lov3comps · 24/09/2017 12:32

Wondermoomin the place I get mine done wouldn't wax her because she's too young and I'd be a bit worried about the chemicals in the hair removal cream. I do the plucking for her and only do the bit between her eyebrows so no danger of over plucking, told her never to do it herself and that we'd go get it done properly if she wanted the rest of them shaped

DrSeuss · 24/09/2017 12:58

"Hey, you know what I fancy doing this weekend? I quite like the idea of having my eyebrows done in Superdrug (or similar) just to see how they look. Want to come along ? Sarah from work says it only stings for a second but you could hold my hand! May be you'd even like a go?"
I plan to do my daughter's very, very hairy legs with Immac or buy her an electric shaver but only if she ever asks, no way will I suggest it. I have the same hairy legs and would hate her to be bullied. That is very shallow, I know, they're just legs but I work in education and know how girls especially zero in on these things. Sad but true.

Nimo13 · 01/11/2017 23:41

Was searching for advice about my daughter when I came across this. Couldn't help but comment. I had a mono brow and mum said no to helping me so I repeatedly took a razor blade to my eyebrows when I was young. My girls who inherited my mono brow have been going to the beautician since it became noticeable to me. I didn't shape the rest of the brows till they were 11 but always got the middle waxed to save others commenting. Do what you think is right

Emmafoz · 03/01/2018 22:56

I wax my tash 😩😩 middle dd has a pretty impressive mono brow which she inherited from me. I had no problem waxing the middle for her when she asked. I would have loved my mum to do the same. Years of shaving the middle did me no favours.

QuiteLikeable · 03/01/2018 22:58

I do my 7 year olds. She was getting teased, I could help her, that was that.

SnapesTears · 09/01/2018 19:18

Instead of telling her to do something about it and caving in to pressure to conform, how about helping her to be more robust and loving herself?

My 12 year old daughter has a monobrow and I have told her that she should only ever change herself for herself, not because of pressure from others. She is really into Frida Kahlo at the moment so thinks monobrows are cool and tells people who make fun of hers exactly where to go.

QuiteLikeable · 10/01/2018 20:44

I talk a lot about that too with my daughter, but given that's monobrow is our family curse and she watches me doing my own...

I didn't feel like using her pain as a teachable moment to be honest. I'd rather help her out as she was being teased by the resident mean girls.

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