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Son 9 going on residential worried about wetting bed

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User7889 · 22/09/2017 07:31

My son is 9 and still wets the bed occasionally, he is soon going away all week with school but he has suddenly stopped looking forward to it and is worrying that he may wet the bed.... he won't entertain wearing pull-ups, doesn't want me to have quiet word with his teacher. not sure what to suggest any ideas would be massively appreciated

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sososocross · 22/09/2017 07:34

Talk to the teacher. They'll have dealt with this before and will have a tried and tested discrete method of sorting and will ensure he's ok (perhaps smaller dorm nearer toilets)

He's 9 and embarrassed but you need to take charge and tell him this is best.

oigetoffmycheese · 22/09/2017 07:45

Talk to the teacher. This happens all the time.

Also if you're inclined at aged 9 you may also get a course of desmomelts from GP. They do help.

A little older DS here and we're still not though bed wetting but it does get better.

Good luck.

EduCated · 22/09/2017 07:49

Definitely speak to them. They'll have dealt with it all before, and it's more than likely that your son won't be the only one on the trip worrying about it!

Little things like they can make sure he's in a bed near the door, can wake him up a little bit before everyone else, can have spare bedding ready to switch if needed etc.

ChangeroOfNamero · 22/09/2017 07:54

We had this - go to your GP. We got some desmopressin (or an alternative, I can't remember) prescribed just for the week he was away.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 22/09/2017 07:55

Tell the teacher, they will have heard it all before and already have a procedure they follow designed not to embarrass the kids.
DS10 was in this exact position last year but he actually managed not to wet the bed whilst there. We told him it was his responsibility to make sure he didn't drink much after the drink with the evening meal, that he wee'd brushed his teeth etc then wee'd again to make sure his bladder was empty and he wore quite thick jogging bottoms instead of PJs to bed incase he did wee so the wee wouldn't be quite as noticeable on the front of his clothes when he got up and wouldn't soak into the bed as much.

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User7889 · 22/09/2017 21:37

Thank you, O'Neill chat with him again as don't want to talk to teacher until he is comfortable with the idea, but your comments have given me good ideas of how to help him realise that it's really not that bad, and it is best for a teacher to be aware. Thank you

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Archfarchnad · 23/09/2017 09:53

Definitely something you can work out with the teacher. When DD1 was 9 she had a good friend who slept so deeply that her brain didn't notice the 'I need to pee' triggers, so she would wet the bed. The two of them wanted to do overnights, but the friend didn't want DD to know about the problem. So the mum and I worked out a system whereby I would call DD to attend to something at night, then friend would go to the bathroom and put on pull-ups and PJs, and by the time DD came back all would be sorted. Something like that would work so that he can put on the pull-ups alone. Twould be a huge pity for him to miss the residential.
And both DD and friend are now 19, and all bed-wetting problems in the distant past.

Sharkbaithoohaha · 23/09/2017 10:48

Have a chat with the teacher together. (I really hope he agrees).
I worked at a youth club and we did sleepovers and trips away. This worry is common and I have dealt with situations quickly because I knew there could be an issue.
I really feel for him being so worried! My daughter is 9 and had her first trip away with the school too!
Pull ups could be a really good idea.
I had children who would change into them straight before bed and then I would get them up first so they could change out of them!

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User7889 · 19/10/2017 22:26

Just back here to say thank you, he went on the residential and wasn’t wet. I did speak with his teacher and told her the truth, but I said to him that I would tell her he sometimes suffered with night sweats that meant he was so wet he would need to have a change. We also slipped in a spare sleeping bag onto the coach incase he did have an accident and I bought two pairs of identical pjs. By chance I had two sleeping bags were the same. He went off still a little worried but not as much as he could have been. Just writing this really to express my thanks as suggestions here lead me to the plan we had and possibly that it can help others in a simelar situation

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