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Jools79 · 21/09/2017 11:54

Hi I'm new here! Joined for some advice regarding my 11 year old daughter. She's just started secondary school and seems to be settling well. However, she has had this 'friend since reception class. This girl creates A LOT of fake instagram accounts and added my daughter into a group with 2 of her imaginary accounts. My daughter is quite naive and believed she was chatting to 2 other people, ( apparently the friends cousins) , the girl herself and another girl from primary school. The conversation was basically taking the pi** out of my daughter and trying to coerce her into saying certain things like she loved the 'girl account. There was a very sexually explicit photograph sent from the 'boy account which my daughter ignored. I can see as an adult , with a bit of insight, that this child is making up these fake accounts to make herself appear more popular and she is basically talking to herself. I blocked the accounts , my daughter didn't appear too bothered as I explained that that's not what real friends do. I challenged the girls mum and mentioned that it wasnt nice reading it and she baducally shrugged it off , denied that the accounts where anything to do with her child and said shed check her phone. I lost all respect for this mum as if it were my daughter I would deal with it appropriately. This girl is in my daughter's class and I feel sick st the idea of her being excluded or whispered about. This other child has caused problems before. She is quite overweight and socially awkward where as my daughter is slim , funny and quite popular. I know it'll pass but my stomach is in knots. I can't wait for her to get in from school later 😥

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JustHope · 22/09/2017 15:04

Hi OP, I think it is common for kids to make up fake or private instagram accounts to keep this sort of stuff under the radar of parents. I know that some of DDs friends have a main instagram account that's all sweet and innocent and other accounts that are completely the opposite. I am pretty sure that some parents have no idea about these.

I think you have done all the right things so far. Perhaps this friend is someone that she should try to distance herself from, she really doesn't sound like a nice friend.

Jools79 · 22/09/2017 15:55

Thank you ! After worrying myself silly yesterday, my daughter came home and had had a fantastic day. She made even more new friends and can see what this other girl is like. So my nerves are settled for now x

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 22/09/2017 19:17

How's your DD getting on now @Jools79?

Jools79 · 22/09/2017 20:25

She still her usual bubbly happy little self! I was more concerned how the other girl would be with her. She has great self esteem and confidence in herself, she joined a lunch time club by herself that she wanted to do and has made another new friend there! I worry too much which isn't always a bad thing but not always a good thing either haha . Thank you so much for taking the time to answer @EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic xx

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 22/09/2017 20:59

I don't think you are worrying too much. If someone was exposing my DD to explicit images, never mind the nasty behaviour, I'd be furious.

So glad thoughthat she can see what's going on and has the confidence to put some distance between herself and this girl.

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