How to tell a 9 y.o. she's going to counselling

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My 9 y.o. DD has been having terrible mood swings & temper tantrums for the past 6 months. Soon she is going to start seeing a counsellor through school, which I thought would be better than me taking her as she would flat out refuse. The school requires that I tell her that she will be speaking to a counsellor, though, and I'm not sure how to go about it. She's already told me she won't go speak to someone about her behaviour but because this particular counsellor does music therapy, I thought maybe I could try to put a different spin on it. Although, I'd still have to explain why she's getting singled out to come out of class for it.

Just tell her that you are sorry things have been very difficult in the last months and that you want her to be happy and serene and that to achieve this the school will have her talk to someone to see how they can solve this.

to help with her behavior she will be seeing a specialist at school.

As a counsellor I would doubt any one would work with your daughter without her consent.
You can tell her there is a person coming into the school who likes to use music to help people feel better and would she like to meet her?

And as a counsellor also I'd be focussed on her feelings and not her behaviours really. These are a symptom of feelings...
I'd maybe also talk about how lots of people need some help talking about difficult feelings and people care about her and want her to feel better.

Thank you everyone. That sounds good, Isadora2007, thanks.