10 year old ds. Nothing seems to bother him 🙄

[BeerBaby]

Today we've had enough. He's been really rude, cheeky, thrown a drink in the kitchen. Refuses to eat his lunch or breakfast as "it's not what he wants" so he's now starving which doesn't help. He's just been really horrible. It all stems from him spending yesterday on his friends Xbox for 7 hours 😭. It always affects his behaviour massively which is why I restrict it at home.

He lost his kindle for a week last night, now his Xbox for the week and his TV rights (choice of programs) have gone for 48 hours. He's in his room for 30 minutes and after that we expect an apology at least or he stays in his room till we get one.

He looked me straight in the eyes and said "make me" when I told him to go and calm down in his room. This is the beginning of the years of hell isn't it!

I don't feel I've handled this well.

Not got much left to lose has he

Can u incentivise him to win back say his xbox with better behaviour

This needs dialling down a notch and the boy needs to eat, the hunger will be a major contributing factor

At 10 he can make his own breakfast and lunch.

Ignore the shitty behaviour. I mean, when he says things like 'make me' roll your eyes and walk off. He's after a reaction.

He will be bothered. When he calms down.
Teenagers don't like to lose face. They also don't have a fully developed brain. Unfortunately the bit that is undeveloped controls reason and logic!
Issue a consequence. Back away. Don't stay about to argue and let things escalate. Avoid multiple punishments for the same issue.
Don't push him into a corner. That won't make him back down. Give choices. So not you have to apologise. You can either stay in your room or come and say sorry. Accept gracefully if he does!
Avoid him going to a friend's house in future if he's going to spend hours on x box. Or make it a shorter visit.
Allow him to make some choices. Lunch. Choose your sandwich filling. Then if he doesn't like it? Well it's what you chose.

Try these books: words that work. Playful parenting.

It helped me stop punishing my son and ways to talk to him where he will listen better and also learn how to be playful with him again like we used to when he was little, to build that bond again.

I still have issues now and sometimes it is so difficult that I find myself crying and feeling like a failure.

If you'd like to talk , feel free to pm me. It's hard for me to type everything I would like to say!