We moved back to my hometown in Scotland a year ago. My 10yo DD was sad to leave some close friends, but so excited to be near family, mainly her cousin, 4 years older.
The school DD joined hasn't been a great success and there's been lots of nastiness; much more bitching and fighting than at previous school.
Meanwhile, her cousin has really changed. Where she used to be quite young, goofy and always there for DD, she now slobs about the place and has her nose permanently in her phone (normal, she's 14). The problem is, she's so rude and sullen with DD. It's hit DD like a ton of bricks and she feels she must be really annoying (something her cousin has implied).
Today, DD was round at cousin's house and she hardly spoke to DD. When she did, it was to tell her to "just shut up", and stop touching her stuff. When cousin was lamenting about missing a friend she doesn't see much, DD indicated that she knows how it feels, her close buddies are down in England, cousin said, "stop trying to make out it's worse for you".
I've tried to explain the situation to sis in law, but on quizzing cousin about it, cousin said she hasn't a clue what DD means, because she adores DD!! And that was that!
I have told DD she needs to keep her distance for a while, but she can't understand and she has no one to put in place of cousin. She does an after school club, but there are no great friendships forming there.
If I spoke to cousin, she'd probably be upset and tell her Mum, which could explode in my face, as sis in law can be fiery.
I feel I need to protect DD, as she's had a lot of adversity at school, leaving her a bit broken and feeling like she's no good. She just doesn't need someone else, whom she really needs, shooting her down too 😪.
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Fandangos · 16/09/2017 22:52
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