She's 11. She's always been a mixture of charming and extremely difficult. Tested borderline for ASD a few years ago, but the older she gets the more I wonder whether that would have even been been a correct diagnosis.
She screams, shouts and has tantrums most days when she doesn't get things exactly her way. It's like parenting a giant toddler. She makes constant accusations that I don't love her, that I only care about her siblings, and the more I try to acknowledge her feelings and address her misperceptions, the more self righteous and downright loud and hysterical she becomes. She belittles everything her little sister does - she seems to be convinced that any positive for dd2 (7) detracts from her in some way.
She also pushes me away - to the point where I think OK then, there's no point fighting this.
There is another side to her, but it's hard to remember when she does things like trying to forge my signature on school forms, as I've just discovered she did with something I said i'd fill in. I have asked her a couple of times whether she'd prefer to live with her dad, if she resents my rules and ways of doing things so much. It's not what I want, but then neither is this.