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incident at friends house what to do?

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passion4pno · 11/01/2016 03:13

I'd never had this happen before and need advice. I sent the 2 girls 8 and 12 to a friends house. One went to one friend, and one to the other. They live next door to each other. Anyway, the 8 yo came back saying that her sister (who was playing with her friend as well as the 8 yo friend) be pulled up her dress, and that she was also hit by this friend of hers. The mother apparently was resting in bed so I think she probably has no idea what happened. Do I go over and talk to the parents or just leave it be? By way, the 12 yo is livid and sorcery dying all knowledge of what happened, but she always lies anyone.

What would you do?

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Atenco · 11/01/2016 04:24

Sorry, I really don't understand your post

Ughnotagain · 11/01/2016 04:49

Who pulled whose dress up? Your post isn't very clear.

TheMaddHugger · 11/01/2016 05:24


So sorry, I can't read this post either, but (((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))

differentnameforthis · 11/01/2016 07:18

So your eldest daughter lifted the skirt of her younger sibling?

And eldest daughter's friend hit your younger child too?

And one of the mums was asleep?

I wouldn't be happy about my children being unsupervised and I would be having words with your eldest about boundaries & refusing to let her go to her friends.

YouBastardSockBalls · 11/01/2016 07:27

It's hardly an 'incident.'
Kids fall out. They'll be friends again next week.

passion4pno · 11/01/2016 09:04

Sorry folks... That's what you get when you write first...

The eldest pulled the youngest skirt up revealing her underwear. Then her friend hit her. The mum was asleep in bed at the time, so didn't know any of this.

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YouBastardSockBalls · 11/01/2016 09:32

Sounds like pretty standard child behaviour.
What time was it? Could the mum have reasonably been expected to be asleep?

The girls just need to apologise to each other. Job done.

passion4pno · 11/01/2016 11:50

230 in the afternoon.

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Atenco · 11/01/2016 14:50

I don't think children of that age need supervision actually. Children need to learn how to negotiate their problems with each other, it's part of growing up.

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