Advice please.

8 replies

WhoreGasm · 07/09/2015 19:32

DD has just started secondary school and has already made lots of new friends which is great.

But she's been invited to go shopping with 4 of these new friends in a market town about 10 miles away. DD is very sensible and very clued up, but she barely knows these girls and has never been to this market town (though these new friends know it well as it's their local town).

DD very much wants to go and I don't want her to be the odd one out, but she is still only 11. It seems too big a step to me but I am aware I can be too cautious and over protective, so some impartial advice would be welcome.

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TeenAndTween · 07/09/2015 22:24

You take her there, hang round in a coffee shop, bring her home.
Any issues she phones you?

Say they must stick together, or at least in pairs?

iPaid · 08/09/2015 15:40

I would let my DD (10) go. In the event of new friends dumping her, she would know to go to the nearest Costa, order a hot chocolate and phone me to pick her up!

anyquestions · 08/09/2015 23:45

I agree with TeenAndTween's advice. I would have a default easy to find place to meet you when it's time to come home, as I think it's always best to have a back up plan rather than relying totally on texting.

Lurkedforever1 · 08/09/2015 23:59

I'd let her go. Either drop and collect later, or on public transport if that's a safe option for you and something she's familiar with. If she's sensible then just because it's further away she'll still be able to follow the rules you probably already have for more local places with well known friends.
Dd is practically in the same position. Made friends on her induction day and mostly all hanging about in a group since starting. Being dd, the couple of names that appear in every sentence belong to girls that all live in different directions to us and each other, and I've already shit myself reasoned that meeting up in town won't be in our nearest town, and she'll be just fine.

NeedAScarfForMyGiraffe · 09/09/2015 18:53

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Alanna1 · 09/09/2015 18:56

I'd let her go and wait in a coffee shop etc as suggested above.

CocktailQueen · 09/09/2015 19:08

I'd take her, and do as Tween says - wait for her. maybe get her to text you every so often to check in. make sure she knows where to meet you afterwards.

Jw35 · 09/09/2015 19:10

Yes as above. Hang about! Does she have a mobile? If so should be fine

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