Bedtime help/advice

[rachelch]

We're having problems with our daughters bedtime. She goes to bed and messes around, when we give her consequences (no iPad, no chocolate day, no TV we've tried everything that we know she likes in the hope it would help). We speak to her 3-4 times most nights. Our son who is 2 goes to sleep better than her (daughter is 9). She goes to bed at 7:30 to read then to sleep at 8. If she has a later night than that she is grumpy and her attitude gets worse the next day. Which then means she gets told off because of her behaviour the next day.
We have a good bedtime routine in place, it's just once she's in bed.

Do you read to her? We are finding that our DD needs a lot of winding down time during these holidays so is having extra reading time. dH is reading her Harry Potter.

Yeah we have story time before she goes through to bed, most of the time she will then also have half hour to read a book to give her that extra time.

I think that is possibly a bit early, maybe if she went slightly later and would go to sleep faster. I know you are saying if she goes later she is a grumpy, but if she is messing about then she is up later anyway? and you can't make her go to sleep, just encourage it.

Is she off screen early enough to make her sleepy? Is she getting enough exercise?