DD hates sleepovers, is she missing out?
Ilovemybabygirls · 25/08/2015 18:24
My dd (10) just can not stand sleepovers, she neither likes them here because she is so tired the following day and feels ill (in her words) she has always loved a long and good night's sleep, and although she giggles and laughs and they seem to enjoy it at the time, she never chooses to do it again or wants to even when I suggest one. In fact she hates even more to go to other people's houses, she says she misses us, and her dog and likes to be in her own bed with her home comforts, she is a real home bird anyway.
We are quite happy for her not to go (I hated them myself when I was her age but loved them as teen) but would hate for her somehow be disadvantaged with her friends or missing out. If they are bonding and sharing and having a lovely time maybe she will somehow miss out. She does not care about this at all, and is completely happy with her choice and is confident in her friendships so does not feel she needs to, but I wonder if I should be encouraging her much more??....As her friends have loads of sleepovers all of the time (2/3 or more a week in the holidays) What do you think?
Lilaclily · 25/08/2015 18:36
I wouldn't worry
She might want them when she's a bit older
BackforGood · 26/08/2015 00:49
No. I don't get the appeal either. I also like my sleep.
My dc have never had that many (or gone to many) and they are not struggling with friendships in any way in their teens.
travertine · 26/08/2015 00:58
Not at all, much more important that she is doing what she feels secure doing with your support. I think they get built up to 'what you should be doing' as regards to what actually happens too. Now my daughter has sleepovers and they have a good catch up and go to sleep at a sensible hour when they are tired.
Ilovemybabygirls · 26/08/2015 12:34
Thank you so much for your replies, which are really reassuring actually, I didn't want to feel bad further down the line if I was somehow not being encouraging enough. My natural inclination is to let children decide for themselves when and what stage they want to do things, I will continue with this after this discussion, thank you.
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