sex education for pre-teens

[emmats]

My 7 year old daughter, (almost 8) wants to know what 'sex with a boy' and 'snogging' is. Struggling to find age appropriate material, there is plenty on 'how a baby is made' but 'sex as a relationships' doesn't come in until much later and is therefore too much information and too detailed for her age. Telling her how a baby is made isn't answering the question. Has anyone found anything? Any guidelines, material, great books, websites and had experience of this.
Thanks, Emma

This is what I used with my dd. It explains the basic facts in a very sweet way - she loved it. It's out of print, but secondhand copies are available on Amazon:

www.amazon.co.uk/Where-Did-Come-Peter-Mayle/dp/0818402539/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1427230725&sr=8-1&keywords=where+did+i+come+from

looks great, thank you

I think a lot of info/books focus on 'how a baby is made' and ignores the fact that sex is/can be pleasurable.

My 6 and 8 year old know that babies are made by doing a 'special cuddle' (and they vaguely know the gist of what that actually means), so its a short step from there to explain that it feels nice (like when they touch themselves there) so people like to do it even when they are not trying to make a baby, as they already know that a 'cuddle' is a thing which feels nice.

I would also make sure to point out that only MUCH older boys and girls have sex, and just say that snogging means kissing.

The explanation my nephew got when he asked about babies when he was 4:
"When a mummy and a daddy love each other very much, they can give each other a very special cuddle and sometimes a baby will then grow in the mummy's tummy. Only grown up people can give the special cuddles and only sometimes a baby will grow."
At 4, this was enough. When he got older, he asked things like "will I be able to give the special cuddle?" and his parents would tell him "yes, when you are an adult". He also asked if he could give this special cuddle to another boy and they told him "yes, but for a baby you will need to cuddle with a girl".

I imagine you could tell your 7 year old that sex with a boy is having a very special cuddle that you can give when you are (nearly) an adult and that you should only do this with someone you love a lot.

I have always tried to answer my dds questions with age-appropriate honesty. I would have no problem explaining exactly what sex is. Of course sometimes I cringe inwardly at the questions she asks (11 now), but I try my best to power through!

It has worked well for me, as she is very open & honest (almost to a fault!) and has learned things properly. At her age, sex is a hot topic in the schoolyard and some children do not talk to their parents at all- so get inaccurate information from other children.