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My daughter has anxiety

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freeasabird1001 · 14/02/2015 16:21

Hi all. This is my first time posting on here. Here is my problem.
My daughter is suffering from anxiety and my Ex will do everything he can to ignore it. I took her to YPAS for counseling, something he didn't want, and when my daughter told him that she told the counselor about him hurting mommy he dragged her down and made her tell them she was lying.

My latest is that though months ago he forced the summer holiday dates on me, now he wants to change them. As I have said no, I have now made plans, he is using our daughter as a pawn. His latest txt is that Robyn, our 8 year old, Doesn't want to go on holiday with me if it is at the end of August. He will have yet again spent two hours confusing and manipulating her into believing that's what she wants. She will only want this so that it keeps him happy and that he wont try to hurt mommy again. My child suffers from anxiety at the thought of us meeting each other at parents evening. He is continually manipulating her and this hurts me so much. I am tempted to change my plans so that he stops confusing her, so she doesn't have to have any anxious times. To my mind what he does is abuse. How can I help her? We have shared custody, unfortunately. Is there any over the counter medication for anxiety for children?

He wouldn't even consider the schools offer to have the counselor talk to her weekly as "she does't have any problems" yet the headmaster and her teacher both expressed concerns. She now sees the counselor at school once a week but wont tell her father.

I am at my wits end. What can I do?

OP posts:
HSMMaCM · 14/02/2015 16:30

Does she get anything except emotional abuse from contact with him ?

freeasabird1001 · 14/02/2015 16:57

She doesn't appear to. He makes her call his g/f mum and makes her refer to me as my name, I know she hates doing that but she is caught in a balancing act trying to keep us both happy.

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hutchblue · 21/02/2015 14:40

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