Posting this under a new account here as I'd be horrified if my DS ever found this. I am a single mum, and my DS turned 9 a few days ago. There is no man around, it is just me and him.
I have two questions to ask advice on, sorry in advance if this is too much information but I don't know where else to turn and I know the advice here is as good as it can get.
- My DS is getting erections, a lot of them! He has had them since birth, but thankfully I have not been subjected to seeing one for a few years before this, but in the past 6 months or so it seems to have gone into over drive, so much so that he has come to me in tears several times after putting him to bed to complain that his willy 'has gone big' and won't go down again, complete with pulling his PJ's down to show me (the horror). He also seems to have a little tent in his PJ's very frequently such that it is hard not to notice.
Is it normal for him to get so many erections and is there anything I can tell him to do to get rid of them? It did look a bit uncomfortable sticking right against his tummy (is that normal?) so I can see how it might hurt him, but I am at a loss as to what to say other than to go and have a wee, which results in clean up duties for yours truly afterwards. What are your boys like with erections? Is this unusual?
- Secondly, I think probably triggered by problem one, he seems to have started to masturbate! I have caught him doing it several times when taking in his washing and the like. I don't mean the little fiddle that boys do, but proper adult masturbation. I knew he would start up on this eventually but he seems too young, he is still my baby! Is this normal for a boy his age? did your boys start about the same time?
I am completely clueless when it comes to boy bits. I love him to death, but there are times when I wish he was a girl because at least I understand those! Not having a man around doesn't help either as it means he is stuck with a clueless mummy instead.