School ski trip - the answer is no but he can't see why

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DS1 Aged 12 Y8 wants to go on a school ski trip in Feb 2015. Besides not being able to afford it without tightening everything, we've said to him that there is plenty of time to go in other years, to get some ski lessons in here first to get some good experience, he will also be a year older and a year wiser, which I think will help. Plus we can save up for it much easier, if it's in 2016! He is acting as if we are the meanest people on the planet and has been quite rude and upsetting with his comments, which shows me he's not mature enough for it yet. I went with school when I was 15 and loved it and I know he will but it's too soon for so many reasons that he can't get despite talking it through a 100 times. He will just have to suck it up and get over it for now won't he? We are not saying 'never' just not now. How can I get him to understand this?

Your poor DS Viva

DD did jumps & they took them down a half-pipe aswell & they had an amazing time. I think she would have gone crazy stuck on the nursery slopes all week.

The Austrian ski school made sure the kids were sorted according to ability and were even changing people's groups throughout the week so that they all got the best out of their ski trip.

I would ask him which friends are actually going before you commit. Mine went in year 8 and it was only him and his mate from that year - we knew this in advance as mate wanted to go and his parents had spoken to us about it.

The more usual years seems to be years 10 and 12 at his school. This meant although ds who is an excellent skier could keep up with the group I think he may have enjoyed it more socially if he had waited.

I think she still had a good time. She liked blasting up and down showing off. And I do think the main thing was a week away with her friends having fun.

Oh that's good Viva, I have to say I think skiing is just such a fun thing to be able to do.

The prob is at that age they only understand the here and now and how that effects them. You saying he can go in a couple of years is heard as NO. It doesn't matter what you say he hears a big fat NO.
Just tell him end of conversation and keep saying to yourself he will get his wish in a couple if years when he will get more out if it and enjoy it more. Forget reasoning he can't hear it at the mo. He will be fine about it eventually.