can anyone tell me when their 11 year olds:

[bella1968]

go to bed
have their tea
discipline their children

please and thank you.

Bedtime here is between 7.30 - 8.00 if not out at activities. Lights out around 8.30 (he's a boy who needs his sleep!). Up till 9.00 a couple of times a week if favourite thing on TV and behaviour been good.

Teatime, usually around 5.30ish.

Punishments, he never does anything too awful that a good stern telling off and sending to room doesn't resolve. But if that fails, no access to tech would be the next step!

My ds 12 has gone to bed at 8.30 since he was about 5 due to my working hours. He still does but doesn't go to sleep until 9 now. Other than a weds which is 10 due to scouts. Weekends sat 9.30 Sunday 8.30/9 depending on what's on tv.

Tea is between 7 and 7.30 again due to my hours. He prepares and cooks this himself otherwise everything would be put back at least an hour.

Discipline is usually removal of iPad for up to a week depending on what he's done wrong.

Dinner is 6:15 as it's when dh gets in from work and I like us to eat together.

Bed time is 8:30 latest but open to being revised due to longer days now at secondary.

Punishment never been an issue as she is a stickler for rules (sorry!), but I would def go down removal of phone route.

Not expecting the rule following to last btw, so no smugness here, more like a quiet ticking while I wait for the rebellion!

DDs are 12 and 13 - bedtime is whenever they seem tired - usually 9/9.30, we eat around 6.30/7 - again, whenever it suits really. Never been sticklers for "routine". (if they have been really busy they are tired earlier, if they have been out at a mates house, they will want to be up later).

They know they have to get up at 7am on a school day and are getting quite good at self-regulating bedtimes now.

oh - and punishment does not come up often, but usually an "oh, would YOU want ME to take you to friend's house tomorrow? then let's negotiate you doing what I want YOU to do (or how I want YOU to behave)"

Dd is 11 she goes to bed at 10pm weekdays and when she chooses at weekends.
She eats with us at 6pm generally although sometimes she chooses to have egg on toast or similar at 4pm and cereal later on if she doesn't fancy what I've cooked or is too hungry to wait.
Dd is never punished, we're talking about the girl who just once as a toddler misbehaved (had to sit on chair for 1 minute) and has never been naughty since.

Getting on for 11 year old

Bed 8:30-9, most days. It'll probably be earlier, once the clocks go back, as his clocks don't.

Tea at 6-ish, with the rest of us.

Has has ASD and ADHD and can be rather volatile and impulsive, so discpline does not take the form of punishment. It's an ongoing conversation with natural consequences, where necessary (eg if he screams and fights with his brother for going near his lego, the lego goes away) and built in incentives for things he finds tricky. If we took away his screen time, he wouldn't make the connection with what he'd had it taken away for.

bed , 9 , read for a hour, later on weekends
tea 5 ish
disciplie, loss of lps, sent to room

Goes to bed between 9:00 and 9:30 depending on tiredness. He puts himself to bed and sometimes reads for a bit but when I go up and check on DC he's almost always asleep by 9:30.

He eats dinner with siblings at around 6. If he has a tennis tournament or rugby game he eats later at 7 but doesn't happen that often.

Discipline depends on what he's done wrong. Not a particularly rebellious child but usually gets phone taken away or isn't allowed to go to friends on weekends.

Bed: too late, as is often found reading too late

Eat: 7ish or a bit later. Gave up doing two supper sittings about 4 years ago

Discipline: lax. Lots of shouting.

11yr DS

Bed at 8:30, can read until 9:00

Dinner after school at 4:30/5, Supper before bed (after sports/music)

Discipline: positive reinforcement, excitement when they show good homework + look of disappoinment when it is poor, or they forget to do something.

Note: Disapproval from me is more powerful than removal of something they like. And a simple explanation that they spent time on the xbox when they should have done better homework, got organised, etc...

Bedtime- 9 or 9.30
Dinner- 6.30 or 7
Discipline- Can't even remember the last time I had to do any of this so don't know. We talk a lot.

mine has just turned 12, yr 7.

Bed - around 9.30-10pm,
Tea - depends on clubs etc, and ds2's clubs, between 5pm and 7pm, if earlier he usually gets cereal mid-evening.