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Preteens

Parenting a preteen can be a minefield. Find support here.

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Shes only 9 help!

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Fanjango · 09/08/2014 00:52

My DD1 was 9 in April. Shes the second tallest in her year and has been a bit "hormonal" for a few months. Today i noticed that she's growing underarm hair, its already over a cm long. I didn't start developing till i was 12 and am a bit unsure of how to help her. Shes a redhead and the hair is orange, should I encourage her to remove it as i don't want her bullied and the only other girl in her class going through this was waxed by her mum
I use a mooncup so have no sanitary products in the house.
What do I need to buy for when her time comes? Its been a while since I started and there must be better products out there for teens than there were when I was young

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twinkles1974 · 14/08/2014 02:31

You can't beat the Always sanitary towels range, they come in all different shapes and sizes.
I started when I was 10, 30 years ago, back when towels resembled nappies & certainly no sanitary bins in school loos. A very awkward time that was! Luckily, times have changed. I work in a primary school, we have s.bins in the girls' loos & spare towels in the classroom. We now also give 'the period talk' to Y5 & Y6 girls. I'm quite used to pupils' mums discussing with me their worries over their daughter possibly starting in school, so don't be afraid to speak to your daughter's teacher about what facilities & provisions they have in place.

ilovepowerhoop · 14/08/2014 07:25

Tesco stocks a teen range and body form are no longer big thick things (I liked body form in the olden days with the thicker bit where it was most needed!)

Theas18 · 14/08/2014 08:44

Actually I've had no problems with my kids using the bodycare " always a like" cheap ones tbh.

They are teeny size 8s . I think firstly girls are a lot less bothered by such things as they were " back in the day" and the thin towels are comfy anyway. They get through loads and at least I don't have to berate thrm for waste!

piratecat · 14/08/2014 08:49

dd started her periods at 9yrs 10 months.

she uses supermarket own normal towels, like the old style ones. the thin ones don't absorb enough.

loveheart45 · 14/08/2014 08:56

She's fine. I started at 9 too. Just tell her to remember everyone progresses through that at one point.

Dancergirl · 15/08/2014 23:00

Asda also do a teen range, my dd likes them.

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Fanjango · 16/08/2014 01:13

Thankyou everyone! Twinkles that us reassuring, a chat with the teacher may be a good idea when the term restarts. I shall check out the teen ranges and own brands. I guess it would be a good idea to get a couple of types so when the time comes she can try them out for comfort etc. phew, it was so much easier with ds

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thornrose · 16/08/2014 01:57

My dd was much smaller than a size 8 when she started her period. She was in age 9-10 knickers. Lots of pads were far too big and bulky or far too long.

We learned to avoid 'wings' and go for bog standard narrow stick ons. Using 2 worked, slight overlap in the middle meant all bases covered!

It's very common for young girls to go all day at school without changing their pad. TMI but true!

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Fanjango · 16/08/2014 02:08

Thanks Thorn. Dd is in age 11 clothes and size 8 is big for her so that's useful info. I remember when I used pads I needed to wear 2 pairs of knickers to keep it all in place, is that still the case or are the modern ones better? Gosh I guess I need to get her some darker pairs to wear, I'd hate for her to worry about staining her fave hello kitty pairs

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thornrose · 16/08/2014 02:39

For dd the pads moved around and caused leakage, I don't see the newest ones as being any different tbh.

I bought dd some black 'period' knickers, I think I bought size 6 from New Look or similar.

differentnameforthis · 16/08/2014 09:40

Re bins. Buy her bags (nappy ones if you can't get any others ) and get her a plastic lined zip purse. If worse comes to words she can bag the used towel & put it in the zip bag & bring home.

differentnameforthis · 16/08/2014 09:52

Also, a lot of companies will happily send samples, so get emailing & get a good variety of bits for her, ready to try. Thatn way she can decide what she likes best. Most of them come in lovely little zip purses (making a good little bag for the school bag, or to bring things home if she can't find a bin)

I have put a little bag together that I will need to start sending dd to school with, I have towels, hand wipes, tissues, bags for waste & a bag for dirty stuff (if no bin)

FoolOfATook · 16/08/2014 10:00

Hi, I started developing public and underarm hair when I was In primary school (I can't remember the exact age) but I remember being very embarrassed when some other girls spotted it coming out of the sides of my swimming costume. I had quite hairy arms too so ended up stealing my mums razor and shaving the hair from everywhere!

I've seem lillets pads in tesco designed for teens with pretty wrappers etc. I was given a pack when I was at school during one of the sex was classes. It was from always and gas a variety of different towels. I'm not sure if you checked the websites of always, lillets eye they may do a sample pack to send out?

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Fanjango · 16/08/2014 12:05

Thanks all. Some great tips here. I will get a little bag for her to be ready and waiting and take a look at the sites for free samples, never even thought of that. You are a fab lot

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Siolence · 16/08/2014 12:19

These are a wonderful thing. Non-rustle comfortable waterproof normal looking knickers.

www.diarydoll.com/about-us/

Muskey · 16/08/2014 12:38

Marking this page for the helpful advice. Dd will be 11 in September she has started getting boobs but no hair or period. Earlier this year she got incredibly hormonal but that has subsided recently. The period pack sounds like a very good idea and will get the book that has been recommended.

mumoftwo1975 · 26/08/2014 09:56

Hello!
I bought my daughter (just turned 10) a starter kit from Boots, made by Lilletts. It's the teen range and comes in a pretty light blue cosmetic bag and contains a few panty liners, some daytime sanitary towels, nighttime towels, the tiniest tampons (both with and without applicators) and a little booklet with info ina pteteen

mumoftwo1975 · 26/08/2014 10:04

Sorry caught send button.
Leaflet in a language appropriate to her age group. I also bought a couple of full size packets of panty liners and daytime towels to begin with (3for2). The towels are smaller and narrow so they fit well in little knickers. It helped me to broach the subject with her before the lessons at school so she felt prepared. She is emotionally young for her age I feel but her body is not. I started my periods at 10 and she's looking very similar with occasional low tummy aches and watery discharge at times so it's imminent!

LEMmingaround · 26/08/2014 10:08

Oh noooooooo no no no no NO!! My dd is 9 she is still a baby - no hormones. No periods. No moody hormonal behaviour. Still a baby ffs!!!

And that is all i have to say about that!

murphys · 26/08/2014 10:19

My dd also started age 10.5yrs. I was totally unprepared, didn't even have any sanitary towels in the house. She started at 6am of a school morning. We have that book so she knew about periods etc already, but I just wasn't prepared.... .

She developed breasts at age 9 and pubic hair as well. Strangely enough though, now at age 12 she has not yet had any hair under her arms? I even checked recently as she was doing a dance exam so I didn't want her getting embarrassed if a few were lurking...

She uses a teen range of towels in the day, but heavy flow night time ones for night, otherwise she leaks quite badly during the night.

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