I have a 11 yr old ds, he's starting secondary in September, he constantly asks for money for swimming, sweets etc etc. When he was 10, DH gave him a job sorting receipts into date order to earn a little cash - was a once a month thing and took about 30 minutes. After 3 months, he whinged and whinged and stopped doing the job (ds2 now does it quite happily, he's 8!).
3-4 months ago, SIL offered ds1 a job mowing their lawn every 2 weeks, he gets paid £10 - a good wage for a 30 min job! But now ds1 is whining and moaning that he doesn't want to do it, he doesn't need the money etc... I have reminded him that this money pays for him to go swimming with his friends or buy sweets or McDonald's etc or he could save it but no, he's adamant that he doesn't need this money... I have said that I won't be giving him the money so how would be pay for these things? I got moaned at...
WWYD?? Do I just say 'tough, you have to do it' or let DH (& maybe ds2 at nearly 9) do it and let ds1 discover that he won't be able to go swimming etc etc? I don't know what the best option is, ds1 is lazy when it comes to doing anything that requires effort but I don't want him growing up thinking money will be handed to him - it won't! We can't afford pocket money so a job is what he will have to do and if he gives this job up, he won't get it back (an extra £20 a month will be handy for DH & I!)
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daisychicken · 09/08/2013 16:45
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