DD has always been strong minded but as she's got older her behaviour has been harder and harder to handle
I am going to try and bullet point it so it's clearer to read
She is condescending - "what are you getting upset over now?" "What have you lost now?"
Constant put downs, every dinner time she finds something to criticise, little put downs all the time, it's like she tries and make me earn her approval
The meals I cook have got to be her liking
She doesn't approve of my shopping "What did you buy this jam for?"
She steals and lies and then does elaborate theatrics to cover her tracks
Rude "I want you to wear your hair down, you look ugly with your hair up"
Nice as pie when she wants something, couldn't give a F* when she doesn't.
She is vindictive and lies to get me in trouble if I have done something that displeases her. She has almost got me in big trouble in the past with her fairytales
Constantly angry and resentful
An incredibly huge sense of entitlement
Does chores under duress. I ask her to please tidy the lounge for me and she tells me she has to do everything 'round here'. If I ask her to do something she tells me I do nothing and she has to do all the housework, doesn't answer when I pull her up on the inaccuracy of that. Any chores done, or cups of tea made, are remembered so she can then tell me how much she does for me
I find myself feeling so grateful during the short periods when she is sweet and nice. Find myself feeling so grateful when she considers other people apart from herself as it's such a rarity.
Is as sweet as sugar at school and with friends. I constantly get told what an angel she is!
Is this normal tween behaviour and am I just being over sensitive? If not, how on earth do I deal with this? I have tried 213 magic (which has improved things but there's still a long way to go) and also methods I read about in a book about strong willed children, but she's still so rude, lazy and entitled!