Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Preteens

Parenting a preteen can be a minefield. Find support here.

Original poster

12 year old not home from school now.. what the hell do I do?

43 replies

Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:02

My daughter rarely goes anywhere after school, but it's not unheard of. She is not home and is usually back by 3. I have left messages on her mobile, have called friends, but gotten no reply. I don't have my mobile, so don't have her friends' mobile numbers. Advice????? Please???

OP posts:
cornypedicure · 07/06/2013 16:04

Is she Y7?
could she have gone to the park with friends or something?
does she do any clubs?

Original poster
Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:06

She is Y7. No clubs. She could have gone to the park. I am on my own tonight, so don't want to go wandering down to the park and leave the house empty in case she calls. I've texted, called, don't know what to do. Am frantically trying to pick up a text message from BT, but that keeps prompting me to go to the website and isn't giving me the blardy message. I keep texting and ringing but no joy so far. Am panicking now...

OP posts:
Kormachameleon · 07/06/2013 16:07

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Original poster
Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:07

She's normally really good at calling and stuff. BUT my mobile is in at the shop cos it's broken and needs fixing.

OP posts:
Original poster
Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:08

Thanks Korma. Just needed someone to talk sense to me cos I'm going off my head...Think I'll get in the car and go scout around for her... will leave a note to say ring her dad.
She walks, so no bus.

OP posts:
Triumphoveradversity · 07/06/2013 16:08

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Original poster
Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:09

Both friends she might have gone to are out or not replying..maybe in garden. Will try again and will try their mobile numbers. I've got htem in the phone book. Trying so hard not to let my imagination get away from me.

OP posts:
Kormachameleon · 07/06/2013 16:14

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

cornypedicure · 07/06/2013 16:16

My ds2 in Y7 does this sometimes and usually phones me from his friend's house but I always worry until he does.
Any word yet?

usualsuspect · 07/06/2013 16:17

Go and look for her.

I'm sure she's fine though,

Original poster
Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:21

No word. Have left a message on her friends phone and am giving her 5 minutes to reply, just in case. I have tried a couple of friend's mums, but no joy so far. Am about to ring school to see if there is any issue. Then I'll get down to the park. I'm sure it's a storm in a teacup, but right now, I'm frighteningly worried. I just need to get a grip..

OP posts:
Original poster
Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:22

School is now closed, ring back on Monday! Useful!!!

OP posts:
usualsuspect · 07/06/2013 16:23

It is scary, my kids all did this at some point.

Try not to panic.

ISeeSmallPeople · 07/06/2013 16:24

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Startail · 07/06/2013 16:24

Deep breath, it's Friday and it's nice weather.

My two have just texted to say they are getting of the bus at the shop and walking the last 1/2 mile.

Justfornowitwilldo · 07/06/2013 16:25

She's probably forgotten about your phone being broken and sent a text/ left a voice mail.

BirdintheWings · 07/06/2013 16:25

Can you tell if the text message (the one you can't access) is from her number, or one of her friends? The fact that there is a message suggests that she might have tried to let you know she'd be late.

3littlefrogs · 07/06/2013 16:25

You said that there is a text message for you but you have to get it from the website? I would do that first, before you go off to look for her.

seeker · 07/06/2013 16:28

She's forgotten about your phone being broken, she's left you a message and gone to the park.

Don't be angry with her when you find her- your relief will make you sound crosser than you are.

SlightlyJaded · 07/06/2013 16:32

Ok. You know it's almost certainly ok don't you?

But I understand the panic.

Can you ask a neighbour to house-sit whist you go and check the park?
Can you think of any emails you've ever had that might have contact numbers for her friends on them? School trips? Anything like that?
Do you know their surnames? Can you call another parent?

Original poster
Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:35

BT keep ringing to say there's a text message, to ring this number to access it. I ring the number, it tells me to go to the webpage. The webpage doesn't give the number I need. I'm on hold with them at the moment and they are very busy, so I'm desperately trying to get a response from them. They're saying an hour. If I could get the message, I'd know one way or the other. As it is, I've got no clue....Bloody BT are off my Christmas card list..

OP posts:
Original poster
Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:36

I know it's almost certainly o.k. It's the small chance that it's not o.k. that worries me. Am waiting for BT to answer now.

OP posts:
Original poster
Ilovemyrabbits · 07/06/2013 16:37

The park is chuff off huge as well, so the chance of locating her is remote. My poor DH is about to go into a social evening with clients, and he's frantic now too. Can you tell it's my only child??

OP posts:
jussey17 · 07/06/2013 16:41

Have you got the message?

jussey17 · 07/06/2013 16:49

Sorry not a helpful thing to say just wanted to let you know you we're not alone. All will be fine she is 12 and sensible. Try to stay calm, and try not to kill by. Can ou ring phone repair shop for help b4 they close?