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Preteens

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Dreading that my dd will start her first period when I m away

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almost50 · 30/04/2013 19:51

I ve been given a chance to go away for a week without kids who will stay with their father. Dd is 12 and I m so worried she will start her period when I m away. Yes, I know it s unlikely as it s just one week. Have talked her through periods, given her the lillets intro pack so she has towels etc but I feel I just want to be on hand. Am I being daft worrying about this?

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ShatnersBassoon · 30/04/2013 19:54

Yes, you're being daft.

lottieandmia · 30/04/2013 19:57

If you've told her what to do she'll be fine. Presumably she'll have an adult looking after her anyway...

ZZZenagain · 30/04/2013 19:58

mine had her first when she was away for a week on an orchestra trip. It was incredibly bad luck but these things happen. It is not that bad in the end.

specialsubject · 01/05/2013 19:22

prime her that her father knows about periods and will be approachable if she needs help.

and make sure he is approachable!

Startail · 01/05/2013 19:34

DD started on a school trip to Europe the teachers were absolutely lovely with her.

It almost certainly won't happen and my DH would me a great deal more patient than me if it did.

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almost50 · 01/05/2013 22:24

I do realise it s being daft. Just that thing of wanting to be there for important life events... And to give her a cuddle, chocolate, hot water bottle, snuggle up and watch a film, etc. It will be my baby entering a different world, and for that reason, it's marked for me. Another stage in life...like them starting school

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ExitPursuedByABear · 01/05/2013 22:26

Which film would you watch ?

5madthings · 01/05/2013 22:27

I started when my mum was awasy, I just told my dad and it was fine :)

Sparklymommy · 05/05/2013 19:50

I started on my 13th birthday and had spent the night with my grandparents. Bit cringeworthy but I survived!

Lottie4 · 07/05/2013 14:21

Totally understand how you feel - I'm occasionally go away myself. Just make sure she knows how to use the protection you've got for her and explain if she starts in the night and wakes up a bit messy to have a quick shower. Also, mention, she would be welcome to phone you for a chat ,also Dad is there for he and if she has a problem at school teachers will be used to helping. It's worth mentioning to him about it and anything you'd want him to know in case she had a problem.

Kewcumber · 07/05/2013 14:28

This isn;t something is made a big dea of in our family. I don;t even remember having my first period or what my mum said/did or even if I told her! Certainly didn't snuggle up and watch a film!

But then I haven't been there for so many firsts (DS adopted) so I guess I've learnt that these kind of things really don't matter that much in the long run - its the other 364 days of the year that matter and first boyfriend break up and exam times.

Theas18 · 07/05/2013 16:43

Don't worry. She'll be fine even on the off chance she does!

DD2 started on a music course all 3 kids were on (and me but I wasn't in the same groups). I got a text from DS (then 14 or 15?) to say "DD2 has started her period, don't worry DD1 has sorted her out but she says can you send dad to get some more pads" LOL.

That's my lot.... factual and supportive but not indulgent of each other at all!

Esker · 07/05/2013 17:19

Don't worry! My mum was away when I started and I've lived to tell the tale! Just make sure she knows where everything is and that she knows how to use sanitary towels etc. maybe make a point of telling her not to worry about getting knickers dirty etc as it happens to everyone. My mum had also bought me a book about first time menstruation which I was totally embarrassed to receive but of course ran off an read cover to cover Chances are it won't happen then of course.

kilmuir · 07/05/2013 17:22

good grief.
My mum was at work when i started. Found dad in his shed and told him, he went bright red, rummaged in mums wardrobe and found me a sanitary towel with hoops!
That tells you it was 30 plus years ago. people much more open these days.
As long as she knows she will not bleed to death she will be fine

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