Starting periods

[Dancergirl]

What do you do if your dd doesn't want you to tell anyone she has started? Just had a message from dd that she's started, she's ok and is using tissues, I'm picking her up in an hour and we've got pads at home.

She doesn't want me to tell anyone including dh which of course I will honour and keep her trust, I just feel a bit funny keeping it from dh. Even though I thought it would be any day now, I'm still slightly in shock.

Should she keep a record of her dates? I know it takes a while for the system to settle into a regular monthly routine, so I suppose it could be months before she gets her next one...?

Any other tips for helping her cope? She's 11, seems so young.

Dd didn't want me to tell anyone but dh guessed and she needed things at her Dads so accepted me telling dads gf. She's more relaxed 3 months on but PMT is a nightmare!

DD started yesterday in Spain! Thankfully we came home today. She's nearly 11. She's coped really well but was heavy last night and leaked through pyjama bottoms. What do you do - should I wake her to change when I go to bed?! Bless her, i feel really sad for her that this it for the next 40 years!!

I remember starting when I was 10 ( 45 years ago !!!) and def did not want my mum to tell anyone. Despite YP being generally much more "grown up" theses days she will still be unusual at starting as young as she is and "womens stuff" is still the butt of a lot of jokes even in the adult world....... with kids I guess it will be even worse.

Glad you will be honouring her request, trust here is just so important and maybe once you have had a chance to talk about it she will be ok re DH knowing. I dont know how much of the whole pads / tampons things are in open conversation / shopping ( eg. you asking DH to buy them or just putting them in trolley when you all shopping together.) Maybe the more she sees / hears that sort of thing the easier she will be in others becomeing aware that some of that shopping is for her ????

Not sure re recording them .......... thing is the info might be useful sometime ... but most times prob a rough idea is good enough

Thank you. It was just a bit of a shock getting that text from her! But in a way it's nice to have the first one over and done with so she can stop wondering when it will happen!

She says she doesn't mind now if dh asks, think he probably suspects anyway.

My dd started her periods this week. We made red velvet cake and then she felt ill and had to have painkillers, a bath and the hottie bottie. Poor dd! She is also 11. I've told her to keep track of her period on her wall calender, just so we can keep an eye on things. I was very irregular as a teen so I want to be able to support dd as much as possible. dd was happy for her dad to know and not bothered about ds knowing either, but we've always been pretty open.