Struggling with daughter

[kilmuir]

need some wise words . I find my DD2 so difficult to get on with. She can be snarely, nothing ever good enough, eyes shoot to top of head when i ask her to help in the house ( i am talking hoovering room, emptying dishwasher etc). Quite nasty to younger siblings.
My husband works away, as soon as he returns she is all sweetness and light. I feel sad, as i am very close to her older sister. I don't compare my children as i know from my own childhood how hard that can be. ,! She is a very intelligent girl and know she gets bored easily. I have tried to spend time with her on her own, but even that is difficult.
Is it hormones, boredom, pushing boundaries, me

All sweetness when dad comes home, maybe she misses him and doesn't know how else to express it?

I do have my suspicions that daughters like to play power games with mothers and experiment with their feminine charms on their fathers. I think it's important that you feel supported by her father and you model being appreciative and respectful of one another. (Think this is one I've slipped up on, my girls know I can find dh infuriating and that I treat him like a third child at times.) He needs to be clued in that she plays you up before he gets home.