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10 (nearly 11) year old DD - coping with the moodswings?

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freddiefrog · 30/06/2012 14:26

Honestly, I never know which way the wind is blowing at the moment and always manage to put my foot in it.

I am trying to be understanding, I remember what I was like

We've put a chill out chair in her room (just a comfy chair and a few of her favourite books, somewhere we can send her to cool down) but she is in all honesty, utterly vile at times (I have huge sympathies for my own mother at the moment :) )

The thing I struggle with, is that it's all so unexpected - earlier today we were laughing at some sort of comedy animal clip she'd found on youtube, flick of the switch and she's all beetroot in the face, yelling and stomping, shoved her sister over, utterly vile, then flick the switch again and she's back to the smiling, laughing person she was 2 minutes previously.

We're in the beginings of puberty, breast buds appearing, a few hairs under her armpits and genitals. We've had a really good chat, she had the basic video/talk at school and I've sat down with her and made sure she's not worried about anything, understands what's happening to her and why. I think we have a good relationship and so far she's been really open with me about what's happening to her body and I hope I've managed to address her worries and make her feel better about and preparing her for what's happening.

It's just these bloody mood swings, I don't know whether I'm coming or going, her sister is bearing the brunt of it.

Would something like oil of evening primrose help?

Thanks!

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moomoo1967 · 06/07/2012 14:04

Wow this could almost be my DD except she hasn't got a sister Smile she is 12.5. About two weeks ago she started taking Evening Primrose oil capsules each morning and I honestly think it has helped. Definitely fewer strops and shouting.
I checked first online if it could be used for preteens. I have explained to her what it is for and that it will help her.

Joiningthegang · 08/07/2012 21:16

Wtjank you - will be getting some evening primrose oil!!!

freddiefrog · 08/07/2012 22:49

Thank you!

Will be hot footing it down to Holland & Barratt tomorrow and give them a try.

Today's little outburst was over a pair of pink crocs in Matalan, it's like living in a minefield!

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BloooCowWonders · 15/07/2012 14:32

Honestly it gets better! My dd had a vile yr 5, but is an absolute delight now and for all this school year. i'm not pretending that we've got it all sorted, but my 11 yr old is lovely :)

She needs lots of hugs and space and understanding. (me too!)

moomoo1967 · 17/07/2012 09:04

Don't go to Holland and Barratt, try poundland or Wilkinsons, they are really cheap in there Smile

MissMogwi · 22/07/2012 09:29

My DD is 10.6 and has been like this for a while. She tends to take a slight comment the wrong way and dramatically storm to her room. Or burst into tears at random things.

I have noticed its worse for about a week every month, God help us all.

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