so stressed

[early80sgirl]

i probably am overreacting, but my dd who is 12 in year 8 is having a bit of commotion in school usual bitchy girl stuff , there is a group of about 8 or 10 girls , my dd and 1 other girl have been pals since primary school , they are or were best pals , this girl invited another of the group for a sleepover to her house my dd was really hurt by this and it caused a bit of an argument ,theyve now got over this little argument but another one of the group has said were not talking to alice now (my DD) she sat with some other girls at lunchtime , my dd is really upset and saying she doesnt want to go to school tomorow !

I think 2 things are happening here to address- your dd should accept that her friend can invite other friends over and not make a fuss about it. Having an argument over it was pointless. Encourage your dd to invite friends over - it doesn't mean she doesn't like the ones she doesn't invite.
The 2nd thing is the girl who's said "we're not talking to Alice now" has obviously used this argument to ostracise your dd. She needs to apologise to the friend she argued with originally and ask to be friends again. The other girl sounds like a bit of a cow but will probably back down and speak to your dd once she realises the rest of the group are talking to her.

Thanks celia hopefully this will all pan out ok , she got a couple of other friends coming round on fri , I get so worried about things like this as I had a terrible time in school with bitchy girls so I am super sensitive to this type of thing x