My 10 year old daughter has suddenly turned into Linda Blair.

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The only thing she hasn't done is puke green stuff everywhere, but Oh My Goodness, the phrase ferocious temper doesn't even begin to cover it.
My dh is finding it really hard to deal with and I am worn out trying to keep the peace between the two of them.
When she goes, she is really quite vile, and unbelievably stubborn, there is no reasoning with her. How do we handle this?

Sorry I can't help, but interested to see what opinions others have - I have an almost 9 year old that is charm personified at school but mean as hell to me. When I told her she couldn't play out after school (because it was getting a bit late) she told shouted at me she has a "right" to play and "denying her rights" was "child abuse". I pointed out that she had been playing at the swimming pool (having a swim while her younger sister had a lesson) and that she wasn't being made to work in a sweat shop/look after a relative/any other thing to prevent playing. Grrr.

lol @ title. I have one too. However bad it is living with Linda Blair, just imagine how much worse it must feel to be her.

This will probably sound unhelpful but just keep going. For two reasons: 1 it is likely a phase, I think I was the same at 12. I felt like everything was out to get me. 2 She needs you to show that she cant push you away. In some ways she is testing your love - she is becoming, slowly but surely, an adult and as we all know adult relationhips with parents are different to child ones. She is kicking out and 'expressing herself' to see if the world, including you and your DH will accept her. You must show that you love her, but you wont accept her behaviour.

Pick your battles - when she is being over dramatic, like in the example housemum gave, dont engage with it, dont discuss why it isnt or is child abuse, just tell her she is doing as she is told and that is final. What she wants is a fight.

When its something that doesnt matter that much - some clothes she choses to wear, music she listens to, things that wont actually affect her wellbeing - then perhaps try not to get into it. If everything is becoming a battle then you have to show that some things - safety, internet time, boyfriends, homework, whatever it is in your household - are worth fighting over. Otherwise she will just feel she may as well do anything as she gets shouted at anyway. Of course, she doesnt see that she is the one that does the shouting first!

I dunno if thats helpful but I hope it is.

My 10yo DD can be like this when she is even remotely hungry. I now don't even bother trying to have a conversation with her in the morning until she's eaten something!

Feel like you are all talking about my 11yo DD. I sometimes don't feel like talking to her as I know that whatever I say she will turn into an argument. I refuse to argue with her and either just clearly state to her that I'm not going to argue, so I will be not saying anything, or if she's being particularly vile, I send her off to her room. After spending some time being ignored or alone in her room, she usually emerges being very apologetic and sickly sweet - this does only last about 5 minutes though!

Ah the joy of boys.

Mine is being as lovely as ever laid on the settee with me sharing one of his easter eggs.

Yes that was purely a parent boy boast

its definatley a phase, hormones all over place, worried out next big school step, my dd1 was horrid for about ten months, couldnt be in the same room as her without a shouting match, that was when she didnt have her head in her mobile but it ends and now she is lovely company she out most of the time and very helpful but just bracing myself for the next phase

tea I think it happens with boys eventually