Pictures on my sons phone

[sillysue]

Okay I am new to this, so I am hoping I get it right. My son is 12yrs old. He has an Iphone that he keeps unlocked, after forgetting his code. He has been snatching it up whenever I go near it recently. As he is a very quiet boy with little in the way of a social life, he has Aspergers, I found this odd and have never had cause to check it before due to him only ever having messages to and from family on it. Obviously I was concerned he maybe being bullied so when I was changing his bedding and he was out the room I checked it. There were no texts to be concerned about so I checked the camera roll. Well I had a shock there were a selection of pornographic photos obviously taken from websites! I have no idea what to do or how to react about this. Help please

It's normal curiousity, but he's not ready for what he can too easily find.
You need to delete the lot, find the right sort of parental controls to prevent future downloads, and talk to him about how he's too young for those materials, yet. And get him some good mature-age-appropriate books about puberty & sexuality to look at instead.

Not sure if ASD is relevant, my 12yo would have same given half a chance.

this looks good, make sure it's up to date.

make sure you've got similar controls on your phone, his DSi, XBox, any household PCs (K9 is good). Etc. Google for relevant instrux.

Thanks for your reply. I just feel really foolish, I have always been so careful about what he does on the internet and watches on tv, but I just never considered the iphone. Thanks for the link I will see what I can do straight away, and hope to much damage hasn't already been done. His ASD has little to do with it but makes me wary about discussing it with him. He is developing and going through puberty at an alarming rate but is still emotionally immature, plays with toys meant for children half his age etc. he is also incredibly sensitive if he thinks he has done anything wrong no matter how minor he can go into complete meltdown. Example from a couple of years ago he couldn't find his lunchbox and was mortified to find out he had placed it on the wrong trolley, the one for his previous school year. This resulted in two hours of him self harming and shouting he wanted to kill himself as he felt he was so stupid. I know I must tackle it with him but I am concerned he will be devastated that I have found out and also will loose trust in me for checking his phone. Sorry for going on and thanks for the good advice

Hmm....

I maybe a dinosaur but I think 12 is way to young to have a mobile phone with internet access, not to mention an iphone, that whilst you would hope would get him "in with the in crowd" is actually making him a bit of a target for mugging and bullying (of the "lend us your phone" followed by signing up for various websites, premium rate lines, making stupid facebook comments under your sons log in etc etc) taking advantage of his naiivity.

How easy is to get a phone with absolutely no Internet access? I mean, cheap & easy.

I'm sorry if this is harsh....but what need could a 12 year old possibly have for an iphone?? Its main selling point is internet access so what else were you expecting him to do with it?