What advice can I give my DS who is so upset [sad]

[mumof2monsters]

DS is in year 6 and for the past couple of months we have had some problems. He has had a best friend since year R and although they have been best mates DS's best friend has had lots of other friends too but DS has just a couple of friends. For the last 6 months DS has had problems with one of the boys in the group. I think they wind each other up the wrong way but this boys mum and I have sat the boys down and told them it is silly to argue.
Yesterday I let DS go to the park with his friends but this boy he has had problems with was trying to encourage the other boys to play with him and not DS. There were some disagreements in the park which have carried on today at school.
Tomorrow DS and his friends have to pick a buddy to move up with to their new school (year 7) Anyway DS went swimming tonight with his best pal and a few others tonight and came out really upset to say that his best pal is going to pick someone else tomorrow and not him. His best pal told him that he wanted to move up with this other boy and does not want to be with DS.
I feel so sad for DS as they have been friends since they were 4 but I have said he will make new friends but he has gone to bed really upset.
I found it hard to make friends when younger and hated all this upset at school and find myself back at school all over again!
It seems that all these boys have been saying not nice things to DS and this boy he does not get along with told him yesterday no-one likes him.sad
I just dont know what to do. I am going to speak to his teacher in the morning and have suggested that when the teacher asks him to pick a buddy tomorrow he says he does not know. I just worry he will sit there and no-one will pick him. I feel so sad and upset that no-one seems to like my DS. He is a lovely boy who at times can be a annoying but this seems really hurtful . Can anyone offer me some advice. Thanks

Am sorry your DS is upset. Sounds as if he will just have to tough it out at school and tell the teacher he doesn't know who to move up with as his friend has picked someone else. When he goes to his new school he will make a whole group of new friends so I would tell him this to encourage him. Also maybe think of letting him do some out of school activity (football, drama etc) to meet other children. This may seem like a big trauma now but children forget things quickly - they might even be best friends again next week!

and for your DS. Children are such little shits at this age. I've a 10.10 DD who is having similar. Hers is based on her moving to a one entry school in Y6.
I would encourage my child to pick the friend and hope for the best. I would also tell him that he will meet people from many other schools (hopefully) and could easily make a new friend.
I am friends still with three people who didn't come from my junior school. I left school in 1980.

I think the advice that you have given him is very good.
His BF is a big fish in a small pond just now but when they move up to secondary he will be a small fish and there will be many other friends for your DS to make.
It won't seem that way now but it will be good for him to make new friends as he is probably a very different boy now than when he was 4!
It sounds as though the BF isn't being mean really, but the other boy in the group has seen how hurt your DS is and siezed on a chance to rub salt in the wounds - nasty little bugger