DD1 - age10 reluctant to be fitted for bra!

[AnaS]

I remember being very eager to be ready for a bra when I was a girl and was shocked at my 10 year old dd1's reaction when I suggested it the other day! She is wearing crop tops (reluctantly) at present but they are looking tight and I think she is ready to be measured for a bra. Her reaction was horror as she doesn't think anyone else in her year (year 5) is wearing one and thinks she will be picked on about it. I suggested she be ready to state that they are just jealous if anything is said but she is concerned that it will get out of the changing room to the boys!!! She has had issues with the girls in her class previously (mostly a bit bitchy tbh) and her confidence is a bit fragile at times so I am not keen to push her into doing something she isn't 100% comfortable with. Without sounding biased, she is a lovely shape and a very pretty girl so I don't know why she has such issues. I have suggested an action plan - anti bullying council, teachers, me! if anything happens but she is adamant! Do I insist or wait for her to be picked on because you can see her rapidly growing breasts through her shirt or until she is uncomfortable - whichever happens first!!! Help please!!!

Would this website be useful?

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Thank you. I had a look and think I'll let her have a look when she gets home from school. Hopefully she'll realise that she's not the only girl in the world going through this. I just wish she wasn't the first one because she really doesn't want to be different! maybe we could get fitted and buy them but put them away until she is ready to wear them. thanks for your help.

I remember not being eager to wear a bra! Remember, just because you felt a particular way about something, it's perfectly normal for your DD to not feel the same way about it.

What about suggesting to her that she gets one (if she really needs it now) and then perhaps putting a crop top on over it, so that it looks like she's just wearing a crop top?

Can't you just get her larger crop tops and lave it till she's in year 6?

AnaS my DD is just like this - she's 11 but started wearing crop tops at 9 or 10. Had to force her into bras - and then she wore crop tops OVER them!!

Have just ordered her bigger bras, and some that are thicker material (hopefully not padded) so that they can't be seen thru her white t-shirt.

I remember being quite excited - but I was about 12; a lot of DDs friends are still physically quite immature and I think this is the source of her reluctance.

Let her choose, if cropped tops are still comfortable just get her a size bigger.

DD1 happily wore a bra once her breasts started hurting doing PE, generally a padded on because she said that worked best. But before that she preferred crop tops or nothing.

DD2 is much more socially aware and wears a cropped top for modesty.