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How much money for yr7 birthday present for girl my DD just met

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UsAndTwo · 17/09/2011 11:17

DD started new school 7days ago and has been invited to party of a girl she just met. Birthday girl wants money as present (so easy at least) but unsure how much to give. For DD BF's would normally be £20 but she is doesn't really know this girl yet so not sure if this is OTT.

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HSMM · 18/09/2011 10:09

DD was given between £ 5 and £ 15 at her yr 7 party. I think £ 5 is fine.

LynetteScavo · 18/09/2011 10:10

£5 would be fine. But I'm insecure and would give £10.

Carrotsandcelery · 18/09/2011 10:11

What are they doing for the birthday party? Does that have any bearing on how much you give? I am not sure if it should but it might help make a decision.

Around here £10 would be generous but mine are younger.

LoveInAColdClimate · 18/09/2011 10:13

What the actual fuck? This girl is asking for money as a present? How unbelievably rude. I think an etiquette book would be a much more appropriate present.

Carrotsandcelery · 18/09/2011 10:15

I don't imagine she has put that on the invites Love - presumably she has been asked and this is what she has answered - maybe she is saving for a big item.

If she has put it on the invite or spouted it unprompted then yes, etiquette book Shock

DownbytheRiverside · 18/09/2011 10:16

My DD used to give £5 made into an origami pig and put into a decorated red money envelope, with those glitter sprinkle things.
Money is a much more sensible present that £10 worth of novelty bits that the recipient might be polite about but detest.
Or the ever-useful book token.
Etiquette changes over the years.

BendyBob · 18/09/2011 10:27

I'm not sure how I feel about a 7yr old asking her friends coming to a birthday party for money either tbh.

Oh well, I'd usually spend up to £10 so I'd give that.

MirandaWest · 18/09/2011 10:30

I think it is a year 7 child (so about to be 12) rather than a 7 year old.

LoveInAColdClimate · 18/09/2011 12:46

In this house children who ask for cash or behave in a spoilt manner get an Oxfam chicken Grin.

ragged · 18/09/2011 12:55

I'd say a tenner, you save on wrapping paper, anyway.
I'd rather people asked for money and then I knew I was giving them something they liked, rather than me having to guess and run the risk of getting it completely wrong.

Rosa · 18/09/2011 13:18

Sorry I am the old fashioned type but asking for money from school friends for a party is rude . Mothers here chat together and ask the mum if there is something particular the child ( or is a 7yr old now a young teenager ?) wants and then they club together. I have seen a child get a bike, roller skates and a Wii fit in this way . If I was asked for money we wouldn't bother going..... What happened to taking a small token and a card and coming home with a bit of cake and a balloon?

nickschick · 18/09/2011 13:21

I think once they get to senior school money gifts are the way to go - ds2 didnt really have a party as such just a few fifteen Hmm friends round for tea and a laugh ........he got money off them all and it wasnt even a party.

seeker · 18/09/2011 13:26

Money of vouchers unless we know the child really well. You don't get the chance to chat to other mums at Secondary school. Waterstones do really nice cards for their vouchers if you have one.

Ihavewelliesbutitssunny · 18/09/2011 13:30

I'd say between £5 and £10. £7 is a good idea but is a bit of an odd number. Wh Smiths do good vouchers for various things, Fat Face, Dorothy Perkins, I tunes etc

Carrotsandcelery · 18/09/2011 13:30

Rosa they are yr 7 not 7 years old. It is very confusing. It is fantastic when Mums club together on bigger things and means much less to find a home for too.

Ihavewelliesbutitssunny · 18/09/2011 13:33

and Rosa I think its a 12yr old rather than a 7 yr old although the clubbing together is a good idea for Primary age children where Mums chat at the gate etc

Rosa · 18/09/2011 13:43

sorry so its 12 yr old.. Still think money is out of order IMO. If old enough then a group of friends can organise the gift if needed as mums are not meeting at the gate .

nickschick · 18/09/2011 15:39

If you get a gift card the card comes with it so you dont have to buy a card nor do you have to buy a gift bag or wrapping paper so thats at least £3 saved.

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UsAndTwo · 23/09/2011 09:54

Thanks for all the advice - went with £15. Just to clarify it was not the girl who asked for money - that would have been rude. I happened to meet the mum and asked if there was anything the girl was particularly interested in (as DD had only known her for 2 weeks). Mum said that she was saving to buy something big and if it was grateful would be happy to receive money instead of buying something.

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nickschick · 23/09/2011 11:44

£15 !!!!!! bet your dd gets invited to all the parties from now on lol Grin.

MrsRobertDuvall · 29/09/2011 14:04

I always give money or a voucher.

bigTillyMint · 29/09/2011 14:21

that's just what I thought nickschickSmile

bonkers20 · 02/10/2011 10:16

Whe started giving money or vouchers when they got to year 6. It has been to the value of £10. I think that's plenty enough for a 12 year old.

Suddenly now they're hitting their teens though £10 seems a bit mean, so it'll be £15 from now I suppose.

fasn8tor · 21/10/2011 10:09

Asking for money is beyond rude and would be hugely frowned upon by my 12 year old dd and her friends!

I have bought gift tokens up to the value of £10 in the past for Claires and Itunes etc.

fasn8tor · 21/10/2011 10:10

I'd be offended if dd was GIVEN money as well. It should be the thought that counts!

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