Need advice re:difficult decison about dd1 and preschool

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DD1 will be 4 next week. Last September she started pre-school 3 days a week. I am a SAHM so she had never been in any kind of da care before.

She immediately hated in and didn't settle. She cried every day when I left her and even when they managed to calm her down she would always get upset again later in the session.

To make matters worse her asthma flared up and she ended up being hospitalised 3 times in 6 weeks.

I discussed it with the preschool teacher and her doctor and decided to remove her until her asthma stabilised.

She has been on new medication for the last 6 months and her asthma has dramatically improved.

As she didn't settle in the first preschool I looked around to see what was available and booked her into one for next September. I think this one would suit her much better.

I had picked the first school on the basis that it was local and I knew people who had sent children there previously and had heard no bad reports. Once I took dd out I started to hear lots of unfavourable stuff - teacher bored, wants them to sit quietly all morning, very little variety in activities etc

Now she is saying she wants to back to the original school. I explained that it will be the same teacher (that she didn't like) and that most of the children will have moved on to big school and won't be there next year but she is insistent.

She could actually start real school in September based on her age but she is very clingy to me and nervous of noise, boisterous children etc so I really feel she needs pre-school to aclimatise her to school.

I am just so confused about what to do for the best. I really want to give her the best cance to settle in and enjoy the experience.

What would you do?

Sorry this is a bit long and boring confused.

Firstly, don't worry!

Long term goal is to get her into a school that performs well and that you are happy with.

You know best what your child can deal with and there is no rush to get her into preschool/ school. Maybe when she is a bit older she won't need the acclimitisation and can just enter school full time.

My son currently in a preschool that is attached to a primary school. In Sept, he will be going to a different primary. Will be an adjustment for him but, long term it's the better choice and at 4.5 years old I hope he will understand when I explain.
HTH

On the assumption that you will be state educating, and are in England, you ought to have a place in reception for this September sorted out. You can defer her entry till the term after her 5th birthday, or negotiate her going to school part time for the first term or so, but if you delay her starting school she would end up going syraight into year 1 next September.

Of course if you're in the private system or not in the UK the rules are very differnt!

She might find school suits her better though - the environment should be quieter and more structred.

Are you in the UK?
If so I think reception may well better prepare her for year 1 onwards than preschool will.

Sorry meant to say we are in Ireland so different system.

Here you have optional pre-school and can start proper school (Juniors) at 4 or 5, depending on parents preference or when child is born.

My dd is about to turn 4 so could start school in September. At pre-school she will probably be one of the oldest in her class.

I would like to try her at pre-school first as her asthma is mostly triggered by colds and until she gets into a school environment we won't really know how effective her new medication is.