Sorry it's long, but the background: DD (2) was bitten twice in a week by a little boy in her nursery class. The teachers gave her lots of hugs and cuddles, told me all about it, and after the second incident, they moved DD into another class (the school has two nursery classes for her age). She was v happy about the move and although was upset about the incident and kept calling the boy "naughty", she seems quite happy to go to school.
Yesterday I picked her up and was sitting outside the classroom with her chatting to another mum, when the boy's class let out. He walked out with the other kids, didn't get anywhere near my DD, just innocently walking along, and she FREAKED. Crying, climbing up me, little heart racing. She was utterly terrified just seeing him.
One of the teachers witnessed this and I asked her what was up - was DD always like this when she saw him? Teacher says, yes, in fact she now won't play on the playground because the two classes are out there together. Now they just let her stay in the classroom and play on her own if she prefers during playground time. !!
I have requested a meeting with the nursery coordinator about this. Clearly the school should have told me she was terrified and hiding away (it's been one month since the biting).
So how do I help DD get over this fear? She is now exposed to the boy for only about 45 minutes out of a 4-hour day (he has bitten others as well, he's probably just in some awful phase and is not targeting her, IYKWIM). But I need to help her deal with her terror. Any suggestions?