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Daughter is making friends at nursery but....

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dillydallydolly · 24/02/2010 23:48

Help!! IM the one freaking out, my daughter is 3.5 and has been there just about a month, she talks alot about another little girl and has asked if she can come to our house or she go to her house, they get on well from what I've seen at drop off and pick up. The class teacher has already told me that this little girl and another girl from the class do go to each others houses already and maybe I could swap numbers with the other mother as the girls spend time talking about it in class!

She previously went to a private nursery between 1.5 and 2.5 and got on well with the other children there but as they were so young it thankfully never came up that they wanted to visit at each others houses.

I'm really not great at the whole small talk thing and can get quite nervous, never used to be this bad when I was working but staying at home has kinda frazzled me!! As yet havent met my daughters friends mother... the point is I dont know what to say if I bump into the other mother?? Should I be being so worried or anxious about this but as she has only really spent time away from me at nursery or with family and very close longstanding friends, am I being a too clingy mother?! Could I suggest an inbetween place for them to play together without sounding paranoid or offending the other mother??

Oh gosh! I feel I have rambled, sorry!! and thanks

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misshardbroom · 25/02/2010 08:06

calm down... this is a little milestone you have to get past sooner or later! If I was you, I would catch the mother at pick-up / drop-off and introduce yourself. Just say that your DD and hers seem to be friendly, and then say 'I don't know if you're ever free in the week, but it might be nice to get them together at the soft play place / park / wherever, do you think?'

Chances are she's thinking all the same things as you, and if you phrase it like this, you give her a get out if she just isn't interested. She could say 'Oooh yes, super, when's good for you?' or she could say 'Yes, that sounds lovely but unfortunately I work in the week', or be as specific or vague as she likes in response.

I always find it easier to meet up with a new mum on neutral territory first, and then graduate to home-based playdates. And at 3 or 4, I don't think I'd send my child on a playdate without me unless I knew the mum really well, and my child knew her really well too.

dillydallydolly · 25/02/2010 19:39

Miss Hardbroom, reading that did help me relax a bit so thankyou for taking an interest. Im still nervous but will just have to be a big brave girl for my lil' girl about it all wont I! so thanks again

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