Is it possible to now cut back on the days??

[LynnMcC]

Hi everyone, just joined today and already finding this a big help-so thank you!
My question is my DD started nursery (get a little confused with all the terms but its the nursery attatched to the local primary if that helps!)on Friday-5 afternoons a week.
She was 3 on the 27th Dec and ive spent all weekend worrying.
We had her first day on Fri which was just for an hour and she seemed OK when I dropped her off but when I picked her up her keyworker said she'd got a little teary and when I went in to the room she wasn't crying but I could see that she had been-she said she was scared and I felt my heart lurch!
Im so worried as she starts full afternoons tomorrow for 5 days and I feel like ive thrown her in at the deep end now!
We have done mother and toddlers, bookstart, jo jingles and playroups etc but always with me being there. She's an only child but ive always made sure she has had the company of other children.
She's a bright girl, good at counting, colours and spelling etc so im not worried about the learning aspect-its more of the seperation issue that im sure many of you can relate to.
The nursery seems excellent too-have been really impressed with the staff both at our at home visits and on the occassions we've been before she started.
Sorry for the long post but im actually dreading tomorrow-I cannot bear the thought of her being scared or unhappy.
Any advice or suggestions would be very welcome and appreciated.
Would you or can you cut back on the days once you've been allocated them and would you recommend them at this stage??

Listen to the staff at the nursery and follow their advice. I'm sure everything will be OK. You'll probably both cry a bit - you should have seen me when mine went to university - separation is a terrible thing and it's worse for parents imo. Chin up - you'll both be fine soon.

When DD was a similar age I looked into part-time preschool attendance. Basically, you get allocated a full time place because that is what is funded for 3yr olds - but you do not have to actually send them full time as they are under compulsory school age. If you feel she'd be happier with just 2 sessions or whatever, then explain that to the setting and don't send her in every day.

I'd talk to the nursery about maybe settling her in more gradually. AT DD's school nursery they take 6 weeks to settle in children who'd not been to nursery before (starting with sessions with parents and building up to 2,3,4 then finally 5 sessions a week. (personally I think 6 weeks is a bit long but can see that nothing to 5 sessions is equally a bit much!)

Thank you both for talking the time and trouble to reply-I really appreciate it
OB, you're so right and I really try to keep any negative feelings I have about anything in general from DD so that she can make up her own mind about things and situations iykwim (not an easy feat for a control freak of a mother who always think she's right about anything and everthing lol)
QOFE-thank you, I was a little worried if I felt the need to suggest this in the future that DD may have lost her place completely.
Guess i'll just have to take each day as it comes and try to judge what action (if any!) needs to be taken.
Thank you both again.

Thank you RSAN, will see how tomorrow goes and bear your advice in mind-it really does feel like we've hit the ground running with 5 sessions a week booked!